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100 Men On “Would You Date Someone Who Slept With You On The First Date?”

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I was watching reruns of Millionaire Matchmaker this morning and Patti Stanger kept beating people over the head about not having sex before monogamy because “men lose interest” or whatever. I’ve heard that this is a crock, but I’ve also been in the presence of men who say women who do that are easy. In an attempt to put this question to bed (ha ha) I talked to 100 guys to see what they had to say. Tally at the bottom.

1. Jason, 26, straight

I would love to have sex on the first date BUT if it happens I will probably look at her in a different way. I like girls who can hold themselves and value themselves more than the average ones so when I’m with one I can feel that I have caught something rare or something hard to find.

2. Jonathan, 23, straight

No guys think like that, if the girl is awesome they will still like her.

3. Dallas, 38, straight

No! A dude loses respect for you if you let him–if you look unconfident or insecure or weak. Having sex too soon isn’t weakness, it’s powerful actually.

4. Adam, 28, straight

Na that’s not bad

5. Brian, 33, straight

I would and have! Wanna have a date?

6. Stephen, 26, gay

I think if you have a connection with someone you can for sure go all the way on the first date. If you have such a strong connection that it makes sense, go for it. Though my ex had a horrible end we hooked up the first night and didn’t stop hanging out for the next week straight.

7. Riley, 25, straight

My fiancée and I did!

8. Mike, 29, straight

I always enjoy sex on first date. I think communication is key.

9. Chris, 28, straight

I would continue to date her. If we are having sex on first date there is a real connection and that can only be built on, specially if the sex is good.

10. Rich, 32, straight

I would still go out with her, I guess, but she wouldn’t seem as hot.

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