1. Money is good
This seems very obvious, but I would like every woman to get “what’s in it for me?” tattooed on the inside of her brain. As a woman you’re conditioned to be helpful to others, often at the expense of what is in your own best interest. It can only be helpful to you to regularly step back from a situation and consider what you are actually getting out of it, and whether it is worth the cost of what you are putting in.
2. Pay yourself first
You have finite resources (time, energy, money) so make sure you pay yourself before you spend on others. You are the only person on the planet who’s sole job is to look out for you. If you don’t pay yourself, there is no guarantee that anyone else is going to. It also is unattractive to ask other people to invest in something (you) that you aren’t willing to invest in yourself. Looking out for yourself will benefit your partner and the people around you. You’ll be a better person if you aren’t exhausted and neglecting self care because you’re busy with other people.
3. Practice mindful spending
When you consider a stock, the first step isn’t to invest in it. The first step is to research it and see if that is a thing you would like to do. You have currency, don’t throw it away blindly. Spend it on something that will benefit you now and in the future. Get your ROI girl.
4. Think long term
You wouldn’t invest in a stock if you thought it was already at it’s peak, would you? You’d put all your money in and then watch it go down for the rest of your life or end up selling at a loss. This is the importance of picking the right person. Don’t pick someone who is hot and sexy at 25 but has no potential to improve. Physical attraction is fleeting, someone who wants to improve their personality as they age is a better bet as far as your happiness is concerned. Find someone who is undervalued and snatch them up.
5. Big risk, big reward
The biggest windfalls usually come from the biggest risks. 10:1 pays out better than 2:1 because it’s so much less likely to happen. That vanilla guy that your parents like might give you a pretty comfortable existence in terms of consistency, but the highs you feel with someone a little more combustible could be worth it. It’s up to you to figure out whether you value consistency or intensity and if that’s a risk you’re willing to take.
6. Don’t get in debt
Don’t be indebted to someone. Don’t let another person have so much power over you that you wouldn’t be able to leave. Immediate gratification is not a good exchange for your freedom.
7. Save for a rainy day
In your love life, affection is currency. Sometimes you’ll have a great income and sometimes you will be cash poor. The best way to not get desperate is to put yourself in a position to be able to ride out a lull. If you feel great about yourself because you are awesome at your job, are a loving friend and have other stuff going on in your life besides dating, a down market is just something you have to wait out.