How are things going in your marriage? Is the romance alive and kicking, or are you stuck with obligatory weekly sex and date nights that neither you or your partner want to keep? Maybe it’s time to think outside the box when it comes to keeping things going. After all, unless you were raised in a convent or around ultra-frigid people, does the idea of donning sexy lingerie, or visiting a sex shop really help? Are flowers and candles really the solution?
Of course, they aren’t. The key to keeping the romance alive is simple. It’s finding ways to enjoy time together, being comfortable around one another, and having fun! Check out these tips on bringing new life to your marriage in relevant ways.
1. Find A Common Passion
If you and your spouse each have your own things that you are into, that’s great. On the other hand, wouldn’t it be awesome if the two of you had something you could be passionate about together? Your options are pretty much limitless. You can get into fitness, sports, hiking, camping, video gaming, join a book club, the list goes on and on. You might find that when it is difficult to connect on other levels, having a shared passion really helps.
2. Enjoy Each Other On Your Own Terms
Don’t feel pressured to emulate other couples or society’s ideals when it comes to romance or enjoying your time together. Instead, know what makes both of you happy and stick with that. You’ll both be much happier than you will try to live up to standards that other people have created.
3. Go On Adventures Together
Your spouse should be your partner in fun. Keep things exciting by putting your adventurous spirits in high gear. Climb a mountain, take a hot air balloon ride, or just spend a weekend exploring a new town. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut when you are married, and this will help to keep things exciting.
4. Throw Romantic Scavenger Hunts
Send your spouse on a romantic scavenger hunt. Provide them with a map or list of clues so that they can find the romantic treasures you have left for them. Let the scavenger hunt end at a romantic spot. Along the way, set out little treats such as sweet and suggestive photos, romantic notes, and pictures of your best memories. You can even preload your preferred device with a playlist of meaningful music for your spouse to listen to while they search.
5. Let Your Freak Flags Fly
Be open honest and accepting of one another’s fantasies. You may not be able to fulfill all of them, but you can try out a few new things. Whatever happens, your relationship will be much improved when you can be open and honest with one another and you feel free to explore one another’s fantasies.
6. Tell Each Other A Romantic Story One Sentence At A Time
Instead of listening passively to or watching another person’s idea of a romantic story, create your own with your spouse. Give it a try! You never know what you might come up with. Your story creation could rival a great romantic novel, or it could take a hilarious turn.
7. Cook A Romantic Meal Together
What’s your idea of romantic food? Is it strawberries and whipped cream, a juicy steak, or something earthy and briny like oysters. Forget going out to eat. Cook together and you won’t have to wait for the check before things get frisky. Just come up with the menu you want, pull some recipes off of the internet and hit the grocery store together.
8. Celebrate Cheesy Milestones
When was your first date? What was your first vacation together? Do you remember your first argument? What about the first time you made up? Every couple has memories that are sweet, romantic, funny, tender or touching. Celebrate those moments. In some cases, the memories associated with these are even better than the memories of the big life events you’ve faced together.
9. Take A Class Together
One way to connect with your husband or wife and bring a new element into your relationship is taking a class together. You can learn to dance, take a cooking class, sign up for an art class at one of those fun places that serve wine while you create art, etc. Check out the listings at your local community college, arts center, or community center to see what is available.
10. Learn The Art Of Erotic Massage
What better way to get closer to one another than physical touch. Buy a book on erotic massage, or find a video online. You will both learn to use touch for closeness, excitement, and pleasure. If you visit your local adult-themed store, you’ll find a variety of massage oils to make things even more exciting.
11. Have A Special Gift Delivered To Your Spouse Once A Month
Brighten your partner’s day once every month by ordering a special gift to be delivered to them at home or at work. These don’t need to be expensive or complex. A bottle of a favorite fragrance, a pair of warm gloves in the winter, a small piece of jewelry, theater tickets, a bottle of scotch, or even a treasured box of chocolates can really make your significant other happy.
All relationships take work. Your marriage is one of the most important relationships you will ever have. The actions you take to keep that union exciting, passionate, and happy will pay off in spades. Besides, you might just enjoy trying a few of these tips, and you might enjoy the grateful response of the one you love.