I have a problem with the word sassy.
I think it means opinionated. I think it means purposeful and strong and unapologetic.
I don’t have a problem with any of those things.
Except sassy is only used to describe women’s strong, valid, unapologetic opinions. When’s the last time you used sassy to describe a man?
For some reason, we can’t look at a woman who dresses boldly, expresses her point of view unapologetically and doesn’t take shit from anyone and just label her as a strong woman. No, she must be the stereotypical sassy. Because god forbid a woman with such caliber be intimidating or powerful.
I have a feeling that the idea for the word sassy came from someone not knowing how to deal with something a woman said, something a woman did, or something a woman wore. At some point, someone looked at her and said, “Most women aren’t like this. We need a word that will weaken all these powerful traits she embodies.”
It is so uncommon for a woman to be able to express herself in a strong, deliberate way without apologizing that we must label it sassy when she does so. Everyone must know she is not speaking fearlessly; she’s merely being sassy. As soon as we sparkle the glitter that surrounds sassy onto her, it takes away the truth of what she truly is. Bold. Strong. Confident. Unapologetic. Aware. Opinionated. Powerful. Influential.
We spend so much time apologizing for things as women that when a woman dares to not apologize, she gets labeled sassy. What sassy really means is: this woman just said or did or wore something daring and didn’t try to apologize for it.
And that is so uncommon that we had to invent a word that would feminize and sugar coat and undermine those actions so we could be comfortable with them.
And that’s bullshit.
I’d rather be an opinionated, purposeful, strong and unapologetic woman over being sassy any day.