This Is Why You Two Never Turned Into Anything Serious

Anita Peeples

Sometimes it is hard to admit that we begin to fall victim to fantasies, especially when it comes to relationships. Before it even gets serious you start to think about all the possibilities and what the future has in store. This is perfectly normal; you are not crazy for thinking this. Just remember fantasies aren’t reality, there is always an explanation. For instance:

They just might not be interested

You can’t let your feelings get the best of you. Sometimes she just isn’t interested. So don’t get hung up on yourself, pull yourself up from your boot straps and try again. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

There is somebody else

She might just be playing the field too; everyone is in search of the ‘one’. Someone else might be making her eyes light up when that notification pops up on their phone. He may be connecting at a deeper level with her, something you never reached while ‘talking’; it isn’t the end of the world. All you can do is hope that he is treating her as well as you would have done to her. At the end of the day you may not be the one for her at this point in life.

Timing

Sometimes the timing wasn’t right. You can’t control time so don’t get down on yourself. Timing is everything, being at the right place and right time can change the course of life.

You mentally built up her image

It is highly possible that you built up her image in your mind while falling in love with ‘talking’. We all enjoy having someone to talk to, in order to fill the silence. During this phase in the relationship, you may lose sight of the thing that made you interested in her in the first place. If you can’t seem to find that “something” again it might be time to get over her. You built a fantasy that is going to fail to meet expectations, so don’t hurt yourself in the long run.

It is not the end of the world! I firmly believe that you can begin to move on. But never forget the past. Your past and experiences make up who you are. Experience equals knowledge. Don’t hate her, it just wasn’t meant to be. But, come back as a stronger individual based off your experiences and become an even better you. With time you will meet the one that you can once again care for deeply. Love is not dead. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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