Are You A Pathetic, Single 20-Something? Congrats, You’re Not Alone!


According to this depressing/odd/overly-specific article on the Daily Mail, if you are a single 20-something who is unable to find love despite being an all around great catch because you are hung up on a former love — you’re not unique!

You are, in fact, just a part of an ever-narrowing series of sub-cultures and categories, this one called the SITCOM, or “single in twenties, clinging on to memories.” It essentially states that you are — like a suspiciously high percentage of your peers — still in love with a former flame and therefore cannot move on, eschewing nights out at the pub for a night at home with takeout Thai food and an inbox full of potential OKCupid dates. According to the article,

A new survey asked female and male members of a dating site the reasons why they haven’t found the right partner. The most popular answer was that the people they meet online do not match up to a previous lover.

A total of 41 per cent of women and 39 percent of men polled said they still had feelings for an ex-lover and this made it difficult to commit to a new partner. Other commitments were cited as reasons love had not blossomed, with 24 per cent of women polled saying they were too busy at work, and a further 29 per cent saying they didn’t like meeting new people in bars and clubs.

Of course, this could be construed as a fairly sad existence to resign oneself to (especially for an age group so young and full of potential), but fear not! There are celebrities who also share your crippling affliction. Both Cheryl Cole and someone named Lauren Goodger (this article is British, you guys can explain that one to me) are open SITCOMS, ready to bear their wounds, inflicted by an ex-love and constantly having salt rubbed into them.

For you see, it doesn’t matter how sad you are. It doesn’t matter how narrow your prospects or self-defeating your activities. There will always be others like you, including famous people, so there will always be a hyper-specific label that describes you. Don’t worry. TC mark

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Chelsea Fagan

Chelsea Fagan founded the blog The Financial Diet. She is on Twitter.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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