She doesn’t ask for help because she believes she can do it on her own. She wants to be strong. In psychology, we could call that the Hero complex. She wants to believe that the whole world could be carried using her bare hands, cradling it like a child to its mother.
She doesn’t ask for help because she believes it’s something she needs to do on her own. No one could do it except for her. If someone else does it for her, it wouldn’t be the same. There wouldn’t be the parts that make up who she is and what she should do. It would not be her.
She doesn’t ask for help because she doesn’t want to take your time. You matter too much to her. She knows you are your own person and she respects that. She knows that you could be doing something to help yourself instead of helping her. She knows that instead of helping her solve her own problems you could be following your passion in life.
This is what she knows, believes, and follows. But there is one thing that she doesn’t realize: she needs your help.
She needs your help because she knows she isn’t strong enough for the task. She knows her knees will bend and break and her back will ache from the weight of the world on her shoulders. Her bare hands are already bleeding from the countless calluses she gained. She needs your help because no matter what she is still vulnerable.
She needs your help because she can’t do it on her own. She may be up for the task, but she will only break in the process. She needs your help because she needs someone to make her believe in herself. She needs help because sometimes she doesn’t know who she is anymore.
She needs help because she needs more time. She needs help because time is the one thing constantly being given to her and taken only after a short breath.
She needs help. She needs love.
She needs help. She needs you.
And even though you offer up yourself to her, what matters to her the most is that you cared enough to offer. And that is the best help that she could ever receive.