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We can be with someone and forget that the love that is there doesn’t actually chip away, that our heart doesn’t need regenerating because it was never broken.

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We tell our friends we’re going to have sex with you. Sorry. Maybe this doesn’t apply to all of you moral angels out there in this online world, but if I’m planning on having sex with a guy, I’m also telling two different group texts of my closest friends that I’m going to do so.

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I won’t be his emotional pillow. His selfish comfort. I am placeholder. I am temptation, something to ease the lonely. I am a girl he never wanted to begin with.

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I was by far most likely to be sarcastic.

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Can we all take a minute to figure out what this phrase really means?

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You will not understand, not then or ever. But you are in love; you are stuck. The past few months were undoubtedly the best of your life, so you will hang onto his half-assed effort at loving you and being gently placed on the back burner.

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You were the classmate they never passed that note to. The coworker they never chased because they feared the taboo of dating in the workplace. The friend of a friend. The friend’s ex, and therefore coded as off-limits forever.

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Just because you weren’t owed anything doesn’t mean there weren’t expectations.

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I remember the first person I kissed after you. It was wrong, because I knew I didn’t kiss him for myself. I kissed him because I was desperate to rebound and to override the memory of you in my mind. And he didn’t help.

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It is hard to get over a cheater because you never get the closure you need. You cannot reason your way to the cause of the cheating — and I strongly encourage you not to try.