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Trigger warning: sexual assault It feels sort of funny to write this, because I know it’s going to be so personal, yet I don’t even know your name. You don’t know mine either.

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Sex shouldn’t hurt, plain and simple. Don’t settle for a diagnosis of “it’s normal.”

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Choosing to have more sex requires making deliberate choices. It must be a priority that you and your partner agree upon, and other things will have to be forsaken to make room for it. But the benefits are worth it, both in the short-term and in the long-term.

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It started with a whispered “no.”

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You can’t just tell someone to eat—the problem is far more deep-rooted within, and to this day, people still don’t understand it.

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How do sex and work support each other without crossing personal (and legal) boundaries?

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If they don’t moan enough, you’ll freak out. If it takes them too long to orgasm, you’ll freak out. If they don’t reassure you how amazing sex was after you’re finished, you’ll freak out.

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It only took me four years to utter those words, and even then, I can’t seem to lose the “technically.”

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The first time I attempted to make love after my husband left me, I had a panic attack.

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As someone who has been told they have skills in the bedroom, here’s my secret: I truly enjoy it and I see each sexual experience I have as a chance to get better at it.