If someone special has walked out of your life, whether it was your significant other or a close friend or relative who has passed away, don’t blame love. You wouldn’t have been together if it weren’t for love. Your heart might be empty now, and when you try to feel, it might be painful, but give it time to heal. It is good that you can feel the pain, because then you know your heart is still working. Loving, as you know, is the best feeling in the world. You cannot deny the fact. Everything seems clear and perfect when you’re in love.
At the same time, love can also be blinding. It can cloud your judgement, because “love” is the easiest thing to say but the hardest thing to do. You hear it all the time. Eight letters that form into just three words. I love you. You may have even said it once or twice yourself. Your heart and mind are set on it. Even though it is acceptable to fall in love with an outfit at a glance or a dessert at a bite, you do not just fall in love when it comes to a whole other person with their own thoughts and feelings.
It takes time to love someone and understand their feelings as much as yours. You will start to notice the little things about them. How they walk and talk. The things they do with their hands. The expressions they make. I remember in elementary school when I learned the definition of the word “like.” We wrote it in our notebooks and I wrote, “I like pie,” and drew a little pie. I don’t remember if I liked a specific flavor, but I wasn’t picky when it came to food. When I was in middle school, I learned the definition of “like like,” and “like like like.” I wrote our initials in my notebook and surrounded them with hearts.
Now that I am in my early 20s, I know it is easy to say and write that you like or even love something or someone. Actually putting it into action is harder. It’s harder with another person, because their feelings might not be the same as yours or vice versa, meaning it is a one-sided love. Even if the feeling is mutual for both parties, your judgment could be clouded.
Love can be a little scary, as silly as it sounds. Just face and accept it and you’ll be alright. But never be afraid of love. Even if it ends in heartbreak, remember how you felt when love was there.