To The Guy Who Changed My Entire Outlook On Love

Ben Seidelman

You had no idea how much you would change my life the day I met you at the gym.

You were so charismatic and immediately caught my attention. You had dark brown eyes and almost jet black hair and obviously lots of muscle, an incredibly attractive man. But that’s not what had me at hello. It was your witty personality. It was the fact that you made me laugh so hard. I had never had a guy make me feel so comfortable before.

Prior to meeting you, I had pretty much given up on finding someone that would suit me. I didn’t believe in soul mates and had dabbled a bit in the dating realm before deciding it wasn’t for me. When I met you, I had no intention of ever dating you. I had been burned a few too many times and wasn’t about to jump back in to any form of a relationship. I had gone from the very immature guy in high school that forced me to do things I didn’t want to do, to the idiot who would tell me he wanted to date me over and over and then I wouldn’t hear from him for weeks, to the guy that I dated because I thought my parents would like him despite us actually being a terrible match for each other. I mean he literally couldn’t speak to me, what was I supposed to do with that? So, I decided to stop trying to find a mate and just focus on my job and school.

That’s where you come in, the most life changing person I’ve ever met.

It started when you interrupted my workout to ask if I had gotten off work early, which, to be honest, was really creepy because I had no idea who you were. You told me that you knew me from the front desk of the hospital where you frequently eat lunch. We started talking and it was so natural for me that I felt embarrassed about how much I talked. I essentially told you my life story in about thirty minutes and you probably thought I was crazy. We gave each other a hard time in the gym for a few weeks and it was so much fun for me.

You see, I had come out of my last relationship thinking that I’d never find someone I could talk to. But then, I would get butterflies every time I went to the gym because I knew I was going to get to see you. I loved being with you because we always had so much fun together. You were my escape from the world, time just seemed to move slower when I was with you.

So here we are, six months in and I can honestly say that I’ve never been happier.

You taught me how to love and how to be loved. My idea of love was skewed because of the people I had previously dated. I found out that it’s okay to let someone spoil me or shower me with kisses and sweet words. Before these things made me uncomfortable and I think it’s because I had the wrong person doing them. I never believed in soul mates until I met you. I thought that you could be with anyone as long as you worked hard at the relationship. I realized that it shouldn’t be so hard to be happy with someone. It should come naturally. I’m not saying we will never go through hard times, but it should be natural to be with someone, easy. And I have that with you. 

You have shown me love in the largest ways and the smallest ways. You’ve sent me reminders that you think of me, like flowers at work and dancing in your living room to candle light. You somehow find a way to make me feel better when I’m stressed. You are the most caring person I’ve ever known. Thank you for loving me and teaching me to love again and to be happy again.

You are everything I never knew I wanted.

I found out that you are perfect for me when I never thought I’d ever love anyone.

Here’s to us and the next fifty years. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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