You Shouldn’t Judge A Person By The Phone They Own

Flickr / Tom Godber
Flickr / Tom Godber

Producer’s note: Someone on Quora asked: Dating Advice: How can I get girls’ phone numbers and not feel like a loser when I have a flip phone? Here is one of the best answers that’s been pulled from the thread.

A few years ago, I was at a party. Most people there were very wealthy. There were many diplomats, executives and wealthy businessmen.

There was a tiny man who dressed very average. He stood at the corner drinking his scotch. I came over and said hi. In a room of expensive tailored suits, the man looked like someone’s chauffeur.

We chatted for a while and he took out his phone for something. He had an old “dumb phone” that costed less than the drink I was holding at a decent bar. The amount of high end and luxury phone in that room was ridiculous. We had people who flashed their 10K+ gold phone.

Anyway we exchanged number. When it was time to go home, he just took a taxi home when everyone else called their chauffeurs.

I had too many drinks to try to figure out who he was. But from the clothes, phone, and car, he didn’t look like a big deal.

The next day, I sent him a thank you text for watering down my drink. It was nice of him to make sure I was not drinking too much. He asked to hang out. I said yes because he was cool and nice. I love meeting random smart people and bounce ideas.

When I got to dinner, It was at a lovely nice restaurant in a nice high end building. Turned out the tiny guy was one of the main investors of this skyscraper in the heart of the city. He also invested in many other projects in town. His net worth was more than many people at that party with fancy + luxury smartphones combined.

I asked him why he uses a dumb phone when he can buy the most expensive phone on the market.

He replied, “It works and does exactly what I need.”

Never judge a person by his phone. Jack Dorsey used to take the bus to work. His net worth is 2.7 B. Warren Buffet lives in a normal 5 bedroom house. It doesn’t stop me from admiring these people. It makes them even more interesting

You won’t be able to afford the girls who have a problem with your phone anyway. It is a nice filter to have.

At the end of the day, don’t feel bad about it. It is just a tool in our life. You cannot let people define who you are with your phone. You need to tell them.

Pull out your phone with confidence and tell the story you want people to hear. You are the person who can control your personal brand, don’t let other people tell your story.

A smart man once said to me: “I don’t care how you spend money. I want to know how you make money.” Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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