As a sucker for romance, I’m quick to fall in love with the idea of falling in love. After all, that’s my favorite part of any movie — the tension, the chemistry, the addictiveness of the will-they-or-won’t-they magnetic pull between two characters that you want so badly to see together. In a way, maybe some of us are the same way in real life, too — we love falling in love. It’s perhaps one of the most exciting things that can happen to you.
But the thing about falling in love is that it’s only a very small component of love itself. Relationships don’t just revolve around one singular stage where all your feelings are heightened and your fight-or-flight responses kick in. Instead, love changes over time — and though it may not be as climactic as falling in love may be, it’s just as beautiful.
Tumblr user helloelloh put it eloquently in her blog post about romantic relationships, which focuses more on the quieter, subtly beautiful moments of being in love.
It’s no surprise that the post went viral, because it’s honestly so relatable, and it reframes how we talk about romance. Becoming comfortable in a relationship isn’t boring. Love changes over time, and that’s okay. It’s beautiful. It’s real. And that’s important to remember.