When I was younger, my mother used to tell me, “If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.” At the time, I used to find it so annoying — what if I just wanted to complain? What if someone deserved words that weren’t nice? But according to her, there were no exceptions.
Now that I’m older, I think I understand it. After all, why put negativity out into the world when you could replace it with positivity? You never know when someone needs to hear something good. In fact, it could impact them forever.
Writer Ed Solomon was talking with a woman when she explained how a comment from a stranger changed her life for good. And it all started when she was being berated by her mother in pubic.
Sometimes when you put positivity into the world, it sticks — but the same goes for negativity. Which is probably why my mother used to always remind me of the age-old adage.
People on Twitter could certainly relate to the story. In fact, a lot of them had similar moments where someone’s words had forever changed their life and the way they saw themselves, and it was what was sorely needed.
Honestly, maybe the adage should have this added saying: “and if you have something nice to say, say it, even when you’re afraid to.”
While it may seem like we, as people, don’t have a huge impact on the world, we do have a big impact on the people we come across. Maybe we’ll never know the full extent to how we influence the world, but that’s all the more reason to try to change things for the better.