Parenting is never easy, whether you’re single or in a committed relationship. Jessica Singleton may not be with her son’s father anymore, but she’s far from a single mom — instead, she and her ex found a way to make co-parenting work beautifully.
She paid tribute to her son’s father, Jon Megason, in a Facebook post that started, “This is my ex. This right here is more valuable than gold. This is a man who doesn’t pay a dime through the state because when my son needs new clothes, I just call him.”
“This is a man who buys a bundle of kids’ movies on Vudu so even I can enjoy them with my son in my own home,” she continued. “A man who drops off the $45 box of pull-ups at my front door so I don’t have to load him up and go to the store. One who takes his son in 10 min notice far often than he should because I have too much to get done or just need a nap. This is a man who listens to me cry because I’m stressed out. This is a man who tells his son not to forget mommy’s boyfriend when he lists his favorite people off the top of his head…A man who rushes over because we got locked out of the house or spends his evening fixing something for us. This is a man who labeled the presents he bought his son from “mommy” because mommy couldn’t get him as many. A man who still watches my sister’s kids so our son can be with his cousins. One who accompanies me to meet strangers from Craigslist to ensure we are safe. This is the diaper-bag-wearing, chocolate-milk-making, selfless, protective, generous, accomplished FATHER to my son.”
She wrote that it wasn’t easy to get to a good place with her ex, but it was a choice they had deliberately made. She encouraged other co-parents to do the same.
“Stop giving excuses and come together for your children,” she wrote. “I’m the most stubborn person that I know and forgiveness came easy to us for the sake of our son. And because of that, I see my son every single day. We always welcome each other’s presence.”
Singleton continued to be co-parenting #goals with a final note: “In case I haven’t told you lately, I’m grateful for you. Most importantly for the motivated individual you are and how you provide Pierson with a phenomenal role model despite the foundation you once had. I love the amount of love my son will always have from you.”
Yes, parenting isn’t always easy, and co-parenting certainly isn’t, but it can be done if you have the will and the right intentions. Maybe we can’t all be “diaper-bag-wearing, chocolate-milk-making, selfless, protective, generous, accomplished” parents, but we can try.