This Pregnant Woman Decided To Give A Trophy To The First Guy To Offer Her His Seat On The Subway And It Took A Damn Long Time

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Have you ever noticed that sometimes dudes are just kind of oblivious? Like really oblivious, to the point where they kind of suck? A lot? Yvonne Lin sure did, and it didn’t take two full pregnancies for the realization to hit her.

Lin was incredibly frustrated during her first pregnancy when she noticed that men refused to offer her their seat on a full subway car, despite many women moving for her. So the second time she got pregnant, she decided she’d find a way to celebrate when a man finally — finally  — gave up his seat for her. What better way to do that than to make a 7-inch trophy and carry it around with her at all times?

It took a good eight months into her second pregnancy, but it finally happened: Lin found a winner!

The trophy read: “#1 DECENT DUDE. First Man to Offer Subway Seat to Pregnant Woman throughout Two Pregnancies.”

“I was getting no seats from men [which gave me the idea of the trophy]…I thought, ‘You know what, it’s worth it to carry it. If I finally get a seat from a guy then I have to celebrate this some way and make sure he knows he’s appreciated,'” Lin told DNAinfo. “[When a guy finally earned the award] he looked up at me and looked super startled and embarrassed and he immediately stood up and said, ‘Please take this seat, I just noticed.'”

This guy deserves an award, but also can we talk about the fact that it legitimately took 17 months for a guy to even consider moving for her? Is this man a hero, or is he just an everyday dude who happened to realize that it’s kind of hard to stand on a moving subway while subsequently creating life inside your very being? I don’t know anymore. I just don’t know.

Take note, gentlemen: you won’t always get an award for doing the right thing, but also you’re not carrying around an actual human being in your body, so use what little energy it takes to stand up and move. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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