1. The “my” and “mine” factor. When you are married, you can no longer say my money, my car, or in general, that’s mine! Me and mine are no longer words in your vocabulary. Instead, you can replace those words with our and ours. Our money and our car. Everything quickly becomes “ours”. The quicker you accept this fact, the sooner you will make married life enjoyable because I am sure if you are still stuck in this mind set, life is hard right now. My mom always taught me to tell my future mate that what’s mine is mine and what’s theirs is mine. I think she was setting me up for a divorce because she never wanted to see me leave home. Thanks mom.
2. The space issue. Once you are married, you are required to share all of your space with another human being! Just thinking about that is a tad bit overwhelming, but not impossible. It is vital that even though you and your spouse will live under one roof that both of you have your own personal space. It is equally important to respect the others area. Moving two households together is a difficult task because both of you have so much stuff. So before you decide where your designated get away spaces are, make sure you organize your belongings to the best of your ability. This will make your life so much easier.
3. You have to consult with another person on all of your decisions. Yes, all of them. Even if you want to pick up pizza for dinner instead of the Chinese you and your mate discussed earlier. This is a shock to most people because you are dealing with two people who are grown and capable of making their own decisions. This is especially important if you decide to have people over. NEVER invite guests over without consulting your mate. Sure you may think that planning a house warming party is a great idea, but your mate might have something else in mind. Communication is key to a successful marriage. Without it you are doomed. I am serious, you will fail. Don’t say I didn’t try to warn you.
4. Excessive spending habits. In every relationship, there is always one person who may have a tad bit of a spending problem. Please understand that you are now spending the household’s money and not just yours. Meaning, it may be time to either curb your spending habits or prepare for a pending divorce. The choice is yours. May the odds be ever in your favor.
5. You have to take the other persons feelings into consideration. This sounds so cliché, but it is imperative if you want to have peace in your household. When a couple becomes one, you always have to make sure your words are seasoned with salt. Saying something that offends your mate is never a good feeling and it should be avoided at all costs.