Love is a concept and a feeling that everyone defines in their own way. The way we know or believe we are in love may be similar. There are different things we do for a person, sometimes unconsciously, than we have in the passed.
No one from your past seems to matter anymore. Those who hurt you or betrayed you start to become a faded memory until it has disappeared. You don’t allow those people and situations to affect your relationship with the one you are in love with.
Being in love is about trusting someone wholeheartedly. You don’t think there’s a hidden agenda or ulterior motive for why your partner is with you or what he/she sees in you. You are able to confide in them and know you won’t be judged or criticized. Rather, you’ll be validated and supported.
You start to think about a future down the road with them. You start thinking in terms of “us” and not “I” anymore. You think about how certain decisions you make will affect them and the relationship. You think “we” and no longer think “me”.
You compromise with them equally. You find yourself willing to give up something you would have never given up for anyone else. I’m not saying you should give up anything but I’m saying you sacrifice some smaller things you weren’t willing to before for the greater good of the relationship.
When you’re in love, you’ll never have to give up something important to you because it will be important to them. You support them in what they do and what’s important to them and vice-versa.
You actively listen to them when they talk about their dreams and passions because you truly want to understand and support them in anyway you can. You’ll start to think of ways you can help them make their dream a reality. Because you ultimately want to be there in the end, standing by their side, proud to call them your partner.
You learn to fight side by side together rather than against each other. Battles you thought you were going to fight alone is no longer the case. They are fighting right there with you. And you do the same thing for them…help them through challenges and obstacles thrown their way. It’s all about teamwork.
You try and find ways to make them feel valued and appreciated daily. You start to realize that you don’t want to lose them and want to make sure they know how important they are to you in your everyday life.
You’ll notice yourself becoming less selfish and self-absorbed and more selfless. You will go out of your way on a random day after work to get them their favorite candy or favorite lottery scratch off just because.
You want them to feel loved and appreciated so you show up for the big things but you don’t lose sight of the little things that add up. You want them to know you’re going to be there for them through the ups and downs no matter how big or small they might be.
When you’re in love with someone, you learn how to not be selfish and only think about how something will benefit you or not. You start considering them in decisions and how they may be affected.
Ultimately, it’s going from “me” to “us” or from “I” to “we.” It’s learning how to put someone else’s needs, wants and feelings into consideration. It’s about being emotionally supportive while the other is going through something.
I think when you’re in love with another person, it all boils down to being less selfish and more selfless in the relationship and understanding you are on a team together and push through obstacles and challenges together no matter how difficult it may get. It’s an understanding and a level of trust that you’ll never have to go through anything alone and that they will be there with you through all trials and tribulations.