Your mindset is what’s constructing your life.
If your brain is the hardware, your mindset is the software. It’s telling you how to function, what to do, and what to believe in.
When we tell ourselves the same limiting statements again and again, our realties begin to reflect precisely what we think. When we unearth our limiting beliefs and gain the courage to re-write them, we find that our lives shift entirely.
When we change our mindset, our mindset changes our life.
Here are the 25 most limiting beliefs that are holding you back from your own success.
1. “When I am successful, I will also be disliked.”
One of the biggest detriments to our own progress is the idea that to be highly successful is also to incur more judgment from others. We get this idea when we judge others who are more successful than us. The reality is that we can absolutely ascend to higher levels of success while fostering healthy and positive relationships, being respected and appreciated for the work that we do.
2. “Only so much good can exist in my life before it’s balanced out by the bad.”
When our lives begin to improve beyond what they have ever been before, we have a hard time trusting it at first. We are almost waiting, anxiously, for something to go wrong. What we don’t realize is the belief that something must go wrong is what makes it go wrong. We are reverting back to our old pattern of highs and lows. Instead, we can adapt to a new constant, which is pursuing, or seeing, the positive in all experiences.
3. “Everyone is watching me and evaluating everything I do in a negative light.”
Nobody is watching you, albeit not for long. Everyone is almost exclusively thinking about themselves.
4. “I’m not qualified enough to do what I really want to do.”
You aren’t worried that you’re not qualified, you’re only worried that other people will say you aren’t, and therefore, strip you of your respectability. It is you who needs to believe that you deserve to take up space, you can absolutely speak with authority, and you are capable of achieving big things on your own terms.
5. “To make a living doing what I love, I must also be okay with doing a lot of work that I don’t.”
This is a survival mindset that might get you through a few tough months, but will absolutely not assist you in truly building the empire of your dreams. To do that, you must readily and completely understand that you can absolutely become financially abundant while doing what you really want to be doing and not filling the rest of your time with work that drains you, devalues you, and distracts you from your true purpose.
6. “I need to work all of the time in order to be financially stable.”
This is, again, an idea that we adopt when we are in survival mode, which can be true when we need to do absolutely anything to get by. However, real success is finding the balance between rest and work. It’s a natural yin and yang that makes each part of our lives fully blossom.
7. “I am someone who struggles with money.”
If you think that you are someone who is not good with money, you will never be good with money. You need to change your mindset to thinking that you are either great at earning, keeping and managing your finances, or that you are someone who is willing to continually improve at it. It is only then that you actually will.
8. “If I do something different than the norm, I’m going to be laughed at.”
By defying the norms and following your calling, you are going to inspire far more people than give them a reason to mock you.
9. “I’m being judged for not making more progress.”
You are the one judging yourself for not making more progress, nobody else is evaluating you in that way — and if they are, they have no right to be. Your path is yours and yours alone.
10. “Other people know what’s best for me.”
You know what is best for you, but you rely on other people’s opinions when you do not trust your own.
11. “My big problems will sort themselves out in time.”
Little problems will sort themselves out in time. Big problems require consistent, daily action plans… otherwise, they will only get worse.
12. “My fears are warnings.”
Your fears are, in reality, a series of irrational ideas formulated together by your subconscious mind in an attempt to protect you. They are not protecting you; they are precisely what’s keeping you from actually feeling safe.
13. “This is as good as it will ever get.”
Whatever you believe your peak is is what your peak will be. If you think that this is all you could ever have, then this is all you will ever have.
14. “If everyone around me is struggling, then I don’t deserve to rise up and succeed.”
If everyone around you is struggling, it is even more important that you are the one to rise up and choose otherwise. Not only for your own sake, but to set an example for those around you.
15. “Life is supposed to be hard.”
Sometimes, hard things happen in life. But life itself is not supposed to be hard, and the belief that it is is what’s keeping you trapped in defeating fear cycles.
16. “Everyone else is doing better than me.”
There are people who are doing worse than you, and people who are doing better. This will be true no matter where you are in life: there will always be someone ahead and behind you. What matters is your own progress, and how much you have improved from the person you used to be.
17. “I have to be the best to be good enough.”
You do not need to be the most successful, the most attractive or the most well-liked to have a life filled with purpose, meaning and true happiness. You do not need to be the best to be good enough.
18. “I will never get over this.”
You may not ever forget impactful experiences in your life, but the emotions associated with them will fade with time. If you don’t trust this, think of all the other things you once thought you’d never get over, and today almost never think about. It will happen again.
19. “This isn’t what I expected.”
Life is never what anybody expects it to be — pretty much across the board. Our lives never quite align to the image we have of them as we’re growing up, because our ideas back then were designed for a kid, not who we actually are. Instead of feeling like what you haven’t isn’t enough because it doesn’t look exactly like what you once thought you wanted, when you find a way to appreciate exactly what you have, it transforms into enough.
20. “I’ll never be good at this.”
If you do not want to be good at it, then no, you probably won’t be. But if it is something you deeply care about improving, you will inevitably improve with time.
21. “I’m not normal, I can’t function like other people can.”
You are probably more “normal” than you would ever want to believe that you are — because “normal” isn’t what you’re making it out to mean. What’s “normal” isn’t necessarily good. You probably are normal, but if you keep thinking that you’re different and can’t function like others, then you will be right, you never will. If you realize that you’re more like everyone else than you are different, you remember that you are absolutely capable of behaving in a way that’s productive and constructive.
22. “I cannot change my life without being extremely uncomfortable.”
While change isn’t always comfortable, this is completely untrue. In fact, changing your life is much more about adding activities to your daily routine that bring you joy, ease and contentment. From there, you naturally shift toward being healthier and more productive. Not all change is painful.
23. “This person is holding me back, and my life won’t improve until they stop.”
Absolutely nobody has the power to hold you back in life, even if they can temporarily impact your life in a negative way. The final outcome is always yours to decide.
24. “Every time I try to make a change, I fail.”
This is happening because you are expecting one change to completely alter the course of your life. In reality, it is small changes, done consistently each day, that changes your life. You did not fail because one thing you tried didn’t work. It’s your consistency that’s the problem.
25. “Everything is harder for me, so that’s why I’m so far behind.
If you believe that everything in life is harder for you, then guess what? It absolutely will be. There are people in far worse circumstances than you persevering in ways that you have not even imagined. If you think that life is harder for you than anyone else, you’re going to stay as far behind as you are right now.