1. Why they are victims of their emotions and circumstances, and therefore rendered incapable of making change in their lives.
2. The validity of their political or moral opinions. Self-sufficient people live out their principles because they believe in them; their peace of mind doesn’t rest in whether or not others agree.
3. The people they date, and whether they are “good enough” to be with or not.
4. The validity and importance of what are ultimately just modes of procrastination.
5. How they look on any given day, even if it is less put together than they would ideally be.
6. The state of their living space at any given point in time, especially when the cleanliness of which doesn’t warrant an apology or excuse.
7. Not responding to phone calls, texts or emails the nano-second they come in; why they sometimes feel the need to “unplug” for a bit.
8. Wanting to spend time alone, particularly on trips, weekends or special occasions.
9. What they do with their free time.
10. Their current financial position, and what positive or negative decisions ultimately led to it.
11. Why they do or don’t keep in contact with certain members of their extended family.
12. Why they do or don’t keep in contact with close friends they once had.
13. The reason they “deserve” to have a drink, get a haircut, indulge in a favorite meal, or anything else that does not necessarily require a rationale to indulge in.
14. Why they feel they way they do about a person or event. They honor their feelings without needing to convince others they are correct.
15. The number of friends they have, and why the quality of those friendships outweighs the quantity of them.
16. Why they stay in relationships, jobs or situations that aren’t good for them. In the face of challenge, self-sufficient people don’t mine for excuses, they advocate for change.