1. Not only focus on the inherently positive things that warrant gratitude but also the difficult things that were crucial for getting you to where you are now. Failure and loss are almost always pivotal redirects.
2. Stop annihilating yourself for having some self doubt, an off day, a not-so-picture-perfect past or uncertainty about what you want your future to look like. You don’t have to have it together all the time. You don’t always have to understand yourself, and nobody should expect you to, least of all yourself.
3. Take notes on your life. If you take a second to write down the little, otherwise insignificant things in your day that made you happy or upset you, especially if you seldom care to admit that they affected you, you’ll notice some pretty telling patterns about yourself.
4. Understand that the opposite of love is indifference. Re-evaluate your relationships with that in mind.
5. Stop being cruel to other people publicly on social media. There are few things more telling of a truly small person.
6. Wear everything in your closet at least once. Donate the things you don’t use or need and stop over-buying and consuming as a means of sufficing for self-worth.
7. Plan a trip for later in the year so you have something to look forward to.
8. Drink a glass of water each morning.
9. Read about a religion that is not your own and try to understand it as a belief system that is just as valid as your own.
10. Tip well.
11. If you have the choice, spend your money doing something as opposed to getting another thing to own. Having things does not change you, experiencing them does.
12. Read a non-fiction book that deals with international affairs, either historical or modern.
13. Invest in a really good pair of shoes, ones that will withstand any weather and are comfortable to walk in for long periods of time.
14. Warm your living space with the little things that calm you and make you happy, and organize your work space with the little things that will make your daily grind a little less frustrating.
15. Work on creating a reasonable morning routine, and know that the most effective ones usually involve doing most of what needs to be done the night before.
16. Start understanding that you probably don’t actually know what other people are thinking of you, you’re often just projecting what you’re afraid of.
17. Stop over analyzing things ad nauseam, it will eventually just turn into complaining for the sake of it. And as many people can attest, if you build relationships around doing so, you shouldn’t be surprised when you want to get out of them for the very same reason.
18. Start loving and accepting your body because it’s your ultimate home, it allows you to experience your highest happiness, in it you can hug the people you love, do something good for the world, and experience everything that means something to you. If that’s not reason to appreciate it, I don’t know what is.
19. Recognize strength as people who can be honest about the ways they are anything but. Honest self-awareness is among the most noble of traits.
20. Figure out what matters to you and make it matter more. Defining our values and morals as individuals is a lost art, or at least, one that’s not discussed enough. Build a life around what matters to you, not what you’re expected to value.
21. Hone in on the fine art of tough love and radical sincerity. The sooner you are able to sit with the truth of a situation, the sooner you can react appropriately to it and stop spending your life circling around reality and making commodity out of every little thing.
22. An accomplishment can be as basic as getting out of bed in the morning to as overlooked as maintaining a healthy relationship to as obvious as holding a steady job. Don’t sell yourself short on appreciating what you do.
23. Write down all the difficult things that happened in 2013 and ceremoniously burn or rip up the paper. Learn that though it may not actually do much to help you forget, every little gesture in the direction of where you’d like to go will add up eventually.