Why A Breakup Is The Best Thing For Your Life, Drive, And Happiness

It finally happened: That talk you’ve seen coming, but have been dreading “the talk.” He or she says, “it’s over,” and they walk away and you’re stuck trying to make sense of what just happened. Where do you go from there? When that relationship was your direction, you now have an internal compass spinning wildly out of control. You don’t know south from west and your biggest priority is getting out of bed each morning and gluing on a smile to show the world you’re stronger than that. But is that actually the right approach?

I just got out of a relationship that ended terribly. I was away for work for seven months and with weeks leading up to my return home, discovered he got married during the time I was away. I’m still shocked and devastated, but it’s not worth wasting any more time on someone who is not worth a look back. In all the confusion and pain that comes with any breakup, you must force yourself to take a step back and truly question, “What’s the purpose this happened?”

Purpose Found In The Empty Space

I believe everything happens for a reason and that even bad things can be turned into good with the right perspective, perseverance, and priorities. The common thread I’ve seen after breakups is that they FUEL YOUR PURPOSE. When I say this I don’t mean there wasn’t drive before or success but when something that was once so important to you comes shattering down, it allows you to see past that stain glass window. You see what’s waiting on the other side. Some of the most extreme things I’ve done in my life have been because I was mad after a breakup — many stupid, ending up in too many drunken nights. However, the big life decisions I made during those times have placed me in circumstances I wouldn’t change for the world. Because of that FIRE FUELING PASSION AND DRIVE, You can push yourself to do things you’ve always wanted to do but have been too afraid to try. Because of heartbreak, you can find purpose. It forces you to look outside yourself for help to God, to friends, and to family. It won’t always be easy, but it will be worth it.

Chase Your Diamond

So next time your heart gets broken, instead of crying, ask yourself, “How can this fuel my purpose?” or “What have I been wanting to do but haven’t done?” You’ll know what it is, because even before when I mentioned purpose, you knew. An image flashed in your mind, a spark ignited in your heart, and you knew exactly what that thing was for you. So what I’m asking you to do today is to let the heartbreak launch you to a mindset of “What do I have to lose?” not “What if I fail?” Failure isn’t a bad thing. With every failed relationship, business endeavor, or life decision, you can still learn and better yourself. Even if your life may look like a mine of coal at the moment, remember that in every coalmine, there’s a diamond waiting to be found. So find your diamond, hold it close and don’t let go, because there are far better things ahead than any we ever left behind. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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