This Is How It Feels To Find Love That Makes You Feel Safe

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It would be a shame for you to ever feel that you have to be on guard 24/7 when you are with the man you love.

You know that feeling.

You two may be walking, hand in hand, and a pretty girl walks by and maybe he looks at her a little longer than he needs to, not even aware of how insecure it makes you feel for him to linger on her sight, for so long, all in your presence.

It is human nature to stare, to superficially desire what is not yours subconsciously at times, but a man who truly loves you will make it known to you that you are his and that he desires you more than anything.

And you know what?

You deserve to know what it feels like to love a man who makes you feel safe in your relationship. 

This means that you never have to worry if he is telling you the truth about where he is or if he is being unfaithful because you know he is telling the truth and would never make you have to test his judgment or character.

This means that he always makes you feel like you are the only woman in the room, even if there are other women around him. His eyes lock to yours only and he is interested in your conversation, your feelings, and what you want in that moment.

You never have to ask him if you are enough for him because he always reminds you that he loves you just the way you are and you don’t feel like you are pressured to change a thing, regardless of the standards of beauty perpetuated by the media daily.

Your looks, your quirks, your crooked smile, and your hidden insecurities are all enough for him because his love is unconditional and isn’t based on perfection.

And how good it feels to know that just like a home heated and furnished, handcrafted with love, you always have the luxury of returning to a man that makes you feel safe. Who is proud to call you his.

So I don’t know if you have found it yet, or if you are still looking, but I just want you to know that you should always be able to feel like you can be 100% yourself in any relationship that you are in and that any other feeling of insecurity and doubt in your relationship isn’t worth staying in.

Because when it comes to love, you need to know that you are both worthy and deserving of authentic, genuine love.

And this type of love always makes you feel safe. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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