Why People Are Endearing

People are endearing because they want to get to know each other. Rather than compete like alphas, two grown adults are curious about each other; they vie for approval and desire closeness. People want to meet other people, they want to touch, smile, discuss, interact. People are endearing because they seek each other out. Their unconscious attempts to relate, to be relevant, and be validated are childishly innocent when viewed from a certain angle – we all just want to be liked.

Similarly people are endearing when they want to be famous. While true fame is undoubtedly a nightmare, and vanity is unquestionably ugly, the root of the desire for fame is simply the need to feel accepted. Or maybe it’s just to be adored. How endearing and tragic of people to work so hard and dedicate so much of their mental capacity – to put themselves through terrible physical and emotional conditions – just to be adored, just to be accepted.

People are endearing when they get together for the purpose of being close to each other. This is otherwise known as “hanging out.” While perhaps veiled by layers of attitude, irony, and persona, the true purpose of hanging out is to bond emotionally. For this the sheer level of hanging out in which people engage is innocent and right. It’s hard to not see it as endearing.

People are endearing because they gather in large groups. Instead of staying at home with a group of friends they seek out places like bars to drink and be around people they don’t know. Instead of staying in their own back yards they go to parks to play and sit around those with whom they’re unfamilar. Instead of listening to music in their bedrooms they go to music festivals to dance with people from other cities, states, and countries. People innocently want to be around other people, and for this they’re endearing.

People are endearing because they have traditions. Having dinner every night with a salad and a floral arrangement as a centerpiece is not necessary for life, yet people do it anyway. Cheersing before shots no longer saves us from potential poisoning, yet we cheers enthusiastically and without question. Different forms of dance do nothing for our physical livelihood, yet every culture on the planet has its own. It’s endearing that these kinds of things are the things that give people a sense of identity, place and security – that these kinds of things are what we equate with Home.

People are endearing because they’re forever seeking out happiness. All anyone wants to be is happy, however misguided our behavior might be. People have entire philosophies dedicated to the pursuit of happiness, not to mention myriad daily practices. All of this is done in the name of feeling good, and it’s difficult to find fault with such an innocent wish. TC mark

image – Sreejith K

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  • lex

    i liked this

  • dip

    “Similarly people are endearing when they want to be famous. ”
    Charlie Sheen is the most endearing person ever :3

  • Guest

    this is lovely and made me happy…cheers to that

  • seymour1918

    i was on a train in chicago coming back from seeing the SAIC bfa show. a girl got on the train holding her piece, it was a sort of pully system that watered plants by itself through weights and pulleys. soon enough the older man sitting next to her was asking her about it and then 3 or 4 people were all agog learning about it and complimenting her. it was just like…people. they are so curious and cute. it was one of the most endearing things ive ever seen and it made me tear up even though im a grinch

  • Anonymous

    Loved this.

  • dea

    After watching the news every night and being reminded of humans acting inhumane, it’s nice to be reminded of why (most) people are endearing. Thanks.

  • endearing person

    People are endearing because they write nice articles about other people and put it on the internet so that all the other people can read it too. 

    • http://omgstephlol.tumblr.com Stephanie Georgopulos

      I feel endeared by this comment, thank you for writing it. 

  • Carp_ioana

    lovely article. one of the best i’ve read from you. continue to be endearing, please

  • Selfworthsamuel

    a surprisingly positive piece from dr. BSG

    I LOVED IT !! SO GOOD!!!

    jk just quoting that one tweet you made lol

    felt really good after reading this after have three weeks of extreme hostility towards humanity and not feeling good at all, this made me feel relaxed and good, thank you brandon

  • Kate

    I adore this, as I do all of your posts I’ve seen and read thus far. :)

  • LS

    excellent & tinged (for me) with the subtle melancholy thought that perfect “normalcy” is completely unattainable (and may in fact be so for everybody)

  • http://twitter.com/mung_beans Mung Beans

    awwwwwwwww BSG, you big softie

  • Strange Friend

    Oh,  I get it.

    This is more satire, right?

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  • (:

    thank you for this. 

  • Vicky Shazam

    really loved this a lot.
    this was a nice reminder that humans are actually capable of such sweet things.

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