Breaking up is the possibly one of the worst emotional pains a human being can go through. It just sucks and everyone goes through it. Even if it was a mutual agreement between the two of you, there is always a sickening feeling in the pit of your stomach when the words “I don’t think this is working out” are out in the air.
But here is the thing, it needs to happen.
Just because you are still in love with someone, does not mean that you are meant to be together. Even if either party did anything in particular to cause the break up, needing to convince yourself that you are still happy in your relationship is usually a pretty good sign that things are not working out like you hoped it would.
Many people stay with their partner, hoping that things will get better and sometimes they do. But more often than not, the relationship ends and it ends up hurting even more than it would have if you had just gone with your gut instinct and ended it when the time was ripe.
Here are eight reasons why you should just break up:
1. You are going in opposite directions in life.
This is a big one. How can you force yourself to be with someone who wants different things out of life than you do? What if you want to study abroad and your partner doesn’t want you to go? Do they want kids? Do you? One of the main keys in a relationship is being able to compromise and if you or your partner is not willing to do that, it’s time to end things.
2. You just aren’t happy anymore.
Being happy in a relationship is the most vital part! This is something that you can’t control. People change in relationships as they start to get more comfortable with their partner. Sometimes this is a good thing and other times, you can push your partner away as they learn the real you. If the heart is not in it anymore, it is best to end things before you are in too deep.
3. There are more issues than not.
If you and your partner are going through a rough patch that never seems to end, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship. Some couples work through these patches but if you can’t seem to resolve them and you just end up fighting more and more about the same issues, something clearly is not working.
4. It is always on your mind.
The mind is a powerful thing. Even if you are not realizing it, it is constantly working through problems in your head. If you find yourself thinking over and over about whether or not your relationship is working out, it is your mind trying to tell you that, deep down, you know that it isn’t.
5. Your partner is annoying you more often than usual.
Usually when you are in love, there is nothing that your partner can do that will annoy you. Their terrible singing voice, their gross habits, you love them all. When these things start to annoy you, however, it could mean that you are drifting apart. Sometimes you can rekindle your romance by doing special
things together but drifting apart is usually a red flag in a relationship.
6. You make excuses not to have sex.
This one is a biggie. Sex is a vital aspect of any mature relationship and if you find yourself not wanting to share this personal act with your partner and keep rolling in the excuses, then it is time to end it, no doubt about it. Sex shows that you are attracted to your partner and without it, things tend to fizzle out.
It is natural for a couple to have sex less frequently after they have been together for a few years but if you find yourself feeling ill at the thought of sex with your partner, then you know what to do.
7. You don’t want to spend time with your partner.
If you wake up in the morning thinking “Urgh, I have to see him today” then you no longer want to be with your partner. Seeing the one you love is meant to be the best thing in the world and if you no longer find the thought appealing, then you are not meant to be together.
8. You can’t picture a future with your partner.
If you are currently in a relationship, think of this: You are either going to marry this person or break up. If the thought of being with your partner for the rest of your life makes you happy, then you are doing something right. If not, however, then I have some bad news for you. What is the point of being with someone who you see no future with? Isn’t the purpose of a relationship to work towards building a life together? If you do not see this happening, then there is no point in dragging it out any longer.