Why Women Should Have Anal Sex

In which we answer the internal question, what does anal sex feel like for a woman? (Answer: very, very good.)

Anal sex gets a bad rap. It’s not hard to understand why. It’s been considered taboo for centuries and often considered to foster homosexual tendencies. But I am a warm blooded woman that happens to love anal sex.

I get why (even I back then) women are cringing at the thought of a man’s you know what coming even close to their back doors. It’s a sexual act only shown on the adult websites and never in coming of age or romantic movies. It’s been made to sound painful and dangerous by scores of women that had a terrible experience with it. Awful, because I feel sorry for their experience, yet that’s understandable. But even more appalling are the ridiculous articles by women who do love anal sex as a degradation to the female race. I read a twisted article from Vice about why women should only have anal sex. It was all kinds of bat-shit crazy. “Rebelling against yourself? A deep rooted desire to be degraded? Life is about dealing with things that you would rather not deal with… like blood coming out of your a**”. WHAT THE F***. That article made me realize that women out there are being made to believe that anal sex is designed to please men and to fulfill a secret desire to be turned into a submissive degraded female. After such an article, no wonder women are shying away from it. You should NEVER want to feel that way.

Here are my top reasons that women should have anal sex.

Birth Controlled Sex

This is a no-brainer. Sex is what men and women are designed for and it is absolutely beautiful. Don’t get me wrong, I love children and babies and I hope to have some little dark haired, blue-eyed children running around eventually. But right now isn’t the time for me. Vaginal sex makes babies and anal sex obviously doesn’t. If you don’t want to have babies right now, birth control is 99% effective with condoms or contraceptives, which honestly, can slightly decrease the amount of pleasure in sex. So the back door cures all of that since your man can come in there safely. *side notes: ALWAYS practice safe sex, especially in one night stands. Abstinence is the only fail proof method of birth control*

Kinky Wild Side

Every woman has a little wild streak in them and a desire to be a bad girl. Who wants to always be the goody two shoes? There’s something alluring and mysterious about the dark side, dangerous and edgy. If I was any good at acting, I’d want to play your basic bad bitch because it just so much more fun to be devilishly mischievous and wear tight black leather. The fact that your tight little back door is “forbidden” and “taboo” makes that wild kinky side come out in the bedroom. Plus, if you’re a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets, your man is going to die of happiness; he’s got the gorgeous, confident, trophy wife to the public and the sexy, wild, mistress-like vixen in the bedroom. Embrace your dark side and give your man a double win. Because we all win then.

Builds Trust

I know, double take right here. How does trust help sex? Let’s face it. Anal sex can hurt if you’re not lubed up and relaxed. Plus that thing is TIGHT. Which is why men LOVE it. But shoving it up there is going to hurt like hell and guarantee a kiss of death to any second chance of doing it there again. The first time I agreed to anal sex was with my ex-boyfriend. He lit up like a Christmas tree when I said yes and of course, I trusted him to not hurt me and thankfully, I loved it. One afternoon, I came, I kid you not..nine times from one anal session! I was batting for both types of sex now. Now the second guy I ever trusted back there, is huge. Deep-throating him was awesome and sex was mind blowing but back there?? That scared me a little and I was so ready to say no. But he was such a seducer. Deep intense eyes that promised excitement and pleasure, and sexy drawl that could melt any heart. Ever put your trust blindly into someone? For me that was him. I couldn’t say no to him and the result was explosive and a melding of two like souls. So yes to trust. Men love to be trusted. They love to hear us say yes to their desires and lay our pleasure in their hands. It feeds into their primal instinct to protect and naturally dominate. Women want to give, so handing over the “ I trust you with my a-card” is something rare and novel. Trust is a gift to both parties and creates a whole other level of intimacy, which is something we ladies always want.

You Feel Powerful

I said that it’s a gift. Not in the “here’s my tight little hole wrapped up in pretty bow for you” but in the “I’m saying yes, because I choose it for both of us”. It’s powerful because anal sex is sex in its rawest form. It’s purely physical without thought to pregnancy (see reason 1). It’s powerful for both men and women. Power for a man because he dominates and controls the situation and his shaft is feeling so good being so tightly stroked. Powerful for a woman because it means embracing her desires to willingness to allow her body to be a sex object for her man. And seriously…what man won’t come back for more of that? Hee-Hee, looks like woman have the upper hand here. (Carpe Diem Bitches) Bow down gentlemen.

Intense Anal Orgasms

This is my favorite reason. Orgasms are god’s gift to women for being so loving. Sadly, 66% of women are FAKING IT. Statistically only 34% of women experience an actual orgasm. Why? Do you not enjoy sex? Ladies, the first step to a real orgasm is to actually enjoy sex and embrace the crazy dirty hot nasty side of it. Yes, you both get sweaty and slick, your hair that you spent hours on gets all tumbled and he’s kissed off most of your make up. Relax…he thinks that you’re pretty damn hot especially when you’re bent over offering that forbidden fruit. Luckily, anal sex, like doggy style, allows the shaft to hit a woman’s g-spot at different angle (side note: men, the g-spot is not hidden…she’s either uncomfortable to the with orgasm about to explode or you’re just not very good). Ever rub the palm of your hand? Feels pretty good and kind of ticklish. Now rub the back of your hand. The sensitivity is higher and it feels even more tingly! That back-of-hand caressing is kind of how the g-spot’s being stroked in anal sex. The tingling pressure builds and then it’s an earth shattering, soul-searing, ear-poppin’, sky-soaring orgasm. Not that you can’t get that same feeling from vaginal sex too, it’s just more tingly and intense. In Short…Fireworks.

I am not a self-depreciating, submissive mouse of a woman. I am a successful corporate working business woman with a sharp fashion sense and heels as high as my standards and my sex drive. I LOVE anal sex. Of course it took some time, practice, and 2 really hot men to get me to love it, but now I can’t imagine a sexy romp in bed without a little anal action. Don’t get me wrong…if you absolutely hate it, then don’t do it. But I think that all women should try it at least once. Do it because you choose it as an act that makes you feel like a woman who is desired and powerful in her sexuality. Not as a woman who is degraded and wants to be brought low. Christian Grey is not real ladies. So, try it out…you and your man will thank me later. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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