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You Are More Than Just A Temporary Fix For Someone Else’s Loneliness

Someone who only shows up when they feel like it is not someone you need in your life.

Caring for people is not always convenient. Life cannot always be catered to your every whim and need. But when you love someone, you show up for them. You ask about their day, and you listen when they need to talk. Even when you cannot physically be there for someone you love, you make the effort to let them know that you care.

People who love you do not just take what they need and leave. You are not a life source for the lonely. You deserve to be loved and cared for the same way you love and care for everyone around you.

If they leave you more than they are actually there with you, then they are not the one for you. That is not love. That is destruction. If you keep giving everything you have to someone who refuses to support you, what will you be left with? If every ounce of energy you have is being poured into someone else, what will be left for you?

Draining yourself in order to please someone else will never produce the outcome you are hoping for. There is no amount of anything you could ever give to a person who only knows how to take that will change them. Once they are done with you, they will simply move on to their next target, and they won’t think twice about the ruin they have left you in.

You do not deserve to be used. No matter how worthless and forgettable they might try to make you feel, you have to remember that their words hold no value. You know your own worth, and no one else is allowed to define that for you. Even if every relationship you have had so far in life has left you devastated and depleted, you will not be empty forever. The only people who are truly empty and lacking are the ones who take so desperately from the gentle souls like you. They see someone who has everything that they want, and they do what they can to take it. They do what they can to dim your light because they have never been able to find their own.

The moment you decide that you are worth more than the way they treat you is the moment you are finally coming back home to yourself. When you realize that being alone is not the worst thing that can happen to you, you can finally start to breathe again. You can pull yourself out from under the weight they placed on you and finally start to remember what it’s like to live the life you’ve always dreamed of.

You don’t have to be worried about constantly trying to win their approval. There will be no anxiety creeping up your spine each time they leave. You will finally begin to understand that respect is an essential part of a healthy relationship. Without that, there is no foundation; there is nowhere for the love to grow.

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