You Don’t Need Him, You Never Did

Christopher Windus

Your heart is broken I can tell when you talk to me, when you say his name, when you’re scrolling aimlessly through your phone. I know you say you’re okay but I know you’re not because I wouldn’t be either, and it’s okay to not be okay – I hope you know that.

He broke your heart and now he’s trying to make you feel guilty, he’s playing mind games with you and that isn’t fair. All those nights he spent ignoring you only to have you wake up in the middle of the night in a panic because he still hasn’t texted you back. All those days he told you to just leave him alone because he didn’t want to see you. All those constant feelings of rejection by the one person who was supposed to love you forever.

Then he finally does it, he pushes you away for good. You tried and tried, but your heart couldn’t take anymore hurting. You finally muster up the strength to walk away and you leave. You’ve been toying with the thought for months now, but you never thought it would get to this point and it has. He leaves you with no other option than to walk away because you tried so hard, you gave him your whole heart and while he used to honor and respect that, now he just walks all over it and treats you like shit.

It’s not fair to you, that’s not what you deserve and you finally started to realize that.

You leave, you feel this sense of freedom, you feel happy, you feel like a weight has been lifted off of you. Then he comes back – like clockwork.

It’s different this time though because he’s the one begging for your attention. He’s telling you he messed up, that he’s sorry, that he won’t do it again, that you’re his world. He tells you all the things he has said before. All the things that make you weak and want to go back because he knows you love him desperately. He knows you’ll come back if he says the right things.

And it hurts, deeply. He could just ignore your messages to him like that over and over, he’d make you feel like nothing for a whole week and he texts you once like that and you just want to give in. It’s taking every ounce of you to fight back against that urge because you know he doesn’t mean it. You know things won’t change.

He just keeps breaking your heart over and over, even when you’re trying to move on.

I know part of you wants to go back to him, how could you not? You love this man with your whole heart and as soon as he comes back all you want is to take him back. But I see you fighting the urge, I see you coping your own way and I see you trying to survive without him. And you are.

You’re getting stronger without him, even on your weakest days.

You’re moving on without him, you’re trying to let go of the life you imaged with him and you’re starting to focus on you, and what makes you happy. You should be so proud.

He always had power over you, even if you couldn’t see it. He always tried to manipulate you to make you believe you needed him, to make you think you would be nothing without him and now you’re realizing you can make it on your own. Now you’re realizing just how strong you truly are and that’s amazing.

It’s not easy, I can see the way you struggle, but you’re doing it. You’re finally starting to live a life that makes you happy. You’re not waiting up for someone to text you, you’re not waking up in the middle of the night questioning why he doesn’t love you like he used to, you’re not beating yourself up over what you could have done better. You’re free from his restraints and that’s allowing you to see how truly strong you are.

You don’t need him, you never did. You’re complete on your own. TC mark

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You look back and you just feel stupid.
You can’t forgive yourself for falling
or believing all the lies.
You reread every text.
You relive every memory.
And it all starts making sense —
he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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