It’s Okay To Ask For Help

Clem Onojeghuo
Clem Onojeghuo

Doing things for yourself is important – it’s so important – but that doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to ask for help.

We sometimes perceive asking for help as a sign of weakness, when in fact it’s the complete opposite. When you really think about it, the best athletes, the best performers, all the greats are people who have coaches, who have someone to look up to so they can keep getting better. Asking for help is a sign of wanting to improve yourself and being wise enough to know you can’t always do it alone.

Of course, a crucial part of asking for help is deciding that you need help and not only that you need help, but you’re actually willing to make the effort to better yourself. It’s deciding that you want to make a change in your life. You can get all the help you want, but until you actually decide you want to better yourself you’re just wasting someone else’s time, and your own.

You can say you want guidance, you can say you just need someone to lean on, you can say you just want the answers, but the reality is at the end of the day you’ve got to want it bad enough yourself in order to achieve it because they are your dreams and your goals. If your friends help you and you never achieve what you’re going after their life isn’t forever altered, they were just helping you, because it wasn’t there dream – it was yours.

You have to be willing to make sacrifices, to push yourself, to do things you’ve never done before in order to better yourself and your life.

You have to wake up determined to do better because even with all the help in the world you will never be successful until you want it more than everyone else around you.

Asking for help is great, it’s empowering, it’s wonderful to feel the never ending support of those who care about you and want you to succeed. You should ask for help because it’s always easier than trying to figure something out on your own and wasting your valuable time and money.

It’s okay to ask for help in all aspects of your life. Maybe you want to start a business and need help with a website. Maybe you just got your heart broke and you need someone to comfort you. Maybe you got a flat tire and need help changing it. Maybe you’re on crutches and you need someone to help you carry things while you move. Maybe you’re broke and you need to borrow $50 for food. It’s all okay, you’re allowed to ask for help. Sometimes not asking for help can be much more damaging than asking for it.

But you have to know when enough is enough. You can accept others help and their generosity from the start, but you can’t lean on it forever. You can’t use other’s help as a crutch in your own life. You have to eventually pick yourself up and teach yourself things because you can’t rely on people forever. Don’t turn into that person, don’t become so reliant on other’s that you forget how to take care of yourself.

It’s okay to ask for help, it’s encouraged to ask for help, but make sure you’re in a position to use that help to improve your life so you’re not wasting people’s valuable time. TC mark

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