Stop Being So Shitty — It’s Not Hard To Be A Decent Human

Blake Lisk

Everywhere I look, at least online, I see posts, tweets, videos, articles, pictures, memes – you name it. Some of these are light-hearted, some of them are funny, some of them send positive messages, but some of them are just down right insensitive and nasty.

It’s impossible for everyone to agree on the same thing, I know that. I know that some people won’t agree on things just because they like to be a dick or play devils advocate. I know that some people just enjoy arguing and degrading people, which is something I will never understand. Most of those people will never change, but maybe a couple will.

Because honestly, it’s not that hard to be a decent person.

It’s not that hard to open the door for the person behind you. It’s not that hard to say please and thank you. It’s not that hard to leave a 20 percent tip, especially when you’re going out to eat and you know it’s going to be pricy. It’s not that hard to donate anything you can like clothes, canned food, $1, round-up your change when asked.

You know what else isn’t hard to do? Not post offensive memes, not write an offensive Tweet because you know it will get you retweets, not intentionally degrade someone because you don’t understand it or you aren’t educated about a topic.

It’s not that hard to be a decent human, but most people don’t care about anything in the world unless it directly relates to them.

If you’re short and a dude you’ll probably get pissed if people always make jokes to you about your height. You definitely find a way to prove that you’re still big and tough, even if it doesn’t prove it on a tape measure.

Everyone gets sensitive about something, EVERYONE. No one is exempt from feeling insecure about different parts of themselves at one point or another. It’s part of being a human, we’re all flawed in some way.

Another thing everyone can understand is that no one likes to be called out for their insecurities, no one likes to find the root of their problems, no one likes to talk about what makes them uncomfortable. So you don’t, you simply repress your thoughts. You simply ignore the fact that you’re insecure about your thighs even though they’re always on your mind. You get defensive if someone brings up the gap in your teeth or the extra weight you gained because it bothers you. You may even turn to self-deprecating humor in order to cover up your insecurities.

You can pretend that it doesn’t bother you, but it’s so much easier to lie to the people around you than it is to lie to yourself.

So let me ask you something, if you are so busy covering up and avoiding your flaws and insecurities, why do you think it’s okay to pinpoint other people’s? Why do you think it’s okay to talk about how much weight someone gained or if this or that person is gay or how embarrassing you find it that someone in their 20s just got braces?

Why does anyone think that’s okay?

It’s not that hard to compliment people instead of degrade them. It’s not that hard to say enough is enough when you know it’s gone to far. It’s not that hard to think about other people in an empathetic way.

It’s great when you’re taken care of in life and think everything is fine and dandy, but what happens when something changes in the blink of an eye, what happens when you’re on the other end of the ridicule, what happens when you’re the one who is being exposed?

It doesn’t feel so good then, does it?

Don’t put other people down, don’t degrade someone because you think you’re being funny, don’t be a shitty person on purpose.

The world doesn’t need anymore darkness shed on it, start being a better person. It’s not that hard. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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