You Need To Forgive Yourself (And This Is How You’ll Do It) / BeauSnyder / BeauSnyder

First off, breathe.

Take a deep breath in and let it go.

Let it all go with everything you have inside your chest, every piece of anxiety you’re holding on to and every ounce of anger you feel towards yourself along and the world. Just breathe it all out and let it disappear into the air. The tears that are forming in your eyes let them freely run down your face because you aren’t sure of how to handle your emotions.

Look in the mirror, really look in the mirror, do you like the face looking back at you? Are you proud of yourself and who you’ve become? Are you happy where you are?

If you didn’t answer yes to these questions take a step back.

Find a notebook or a journal and write your thoughts down.

Why aren’t you happy? Why aren’t you proud? What do you need to do to improve?

Don’t blame other people in your life, don’t blame your boss, or your partner, or your kids, or the random guy you crossed paths with at the store.

Don’t put blame on anyone other than yourself.

You are responsible for your life and your life only. You are responsible for your decisions and actions.

Think about all the moments you might not be happy with and what you would do differently. Think about the different paths you could have taken and mostly think of the different routes you’d take if you were to do it all again.

Write everything down, pour your heart out in that journal and don’t stop until you feel free. Until you feel you’ve finally released all your thoughts and you can breathe easier.

Then light the pages on fire and watch them burn in front of your eyes.

Forget about them. Let the thoughts go. Forgive yourself and move forward.

Look at your day today and make the most of it.

Work on living in the now, don’t think about the past, don’t go back on every choice you could have made differently because you can’t change the past. You can’t go back and do things differently, you had your chance and you did what you did. Now it’s time to move forward, to continue with your life and to make the most of your current situation.

It’s time to breathe easier and lighter. It’s time to set new goals and dreams and it’s time to truly forgive yourself for everything you held on to for so long. Forgive yourself for the missed opportunities and create new ones. Forgive yourself for the relationships you ruined and don’t let that happen to the new ones and if you can work on mending the old ones back together.

Holding on to the past won’t bring it back, it will only make moving on harder.

Let all your fear go and open your heart and mind to embrace new possibilities.

Start working on directing your energy towards yourself and loving yourself. Start working on finding a healthy balance in your life and become a person you’re proud of. I’m not saying it will happen overnight, but give it time. Start with small changes.

Try meditating for 10 minutes, eat some veggies, walk your dog, light candles and enjoy a bath, watch your favorite movie and laugh so hard your cry.

You need to forgive yourself, you did the best you could and now it’s time to start enjoying your life again because you deserve to be happy when you see the face looking back at you in the mirror.

It’s never to late to start over and make a positive change.

You can do it. I believe in you. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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