The Unedited Truth About Finding Love ‘Someday’

Jeff Isy
Jeff Isy

Everyone’s favorite word in regards to love is someday.

Everyone always says someday you’ll get over him, someday you’ll find someone, someday you’ll find happiness when you aren’t looking for it.

All I want to know is when the hell is someday?

It’s the magical day that exists, just like tomorrow. You’ll always start you diet tomorrow just like you’ll always find the love of your life someday.

Sometimes waiting for someday feels like a day that’s so far out of reach you can’t even see it.

Everyone who tells you someday doesn’t see the part where you’re sitting alone in your room late at night tossing and turning over someone who barely even thinks of you. They don’t see the person who sheds silent tears in the car while singing along to a sad song on the radio. They don’t see the mental games that go on inside their heads wondering why not them, why they aren’t good enough to be capable of being loved.

Someday sucks, but everyone always loves referring to that mystery love we’re all out chasing.

Someday is there for comfort, it’s there to cushion the blow of being alone, it’s there to assure us that we aren’t incapable of being loved, we just haven’t met the person who’s going to sweep us off our feet yet.

Part of me hates being told someday, part of me just wants to fast forward to the part when I find someone. When I meet the person who is suppose to flip my world and become the other half of my life, the better half.

But the other part of me kind of appreciates it, the uncertainty of the unknown.

Part of me kind of enjoys the mystery, kind of enjoys not knowing who I’ll run into or who I’ll meet along the way. It gives me time to keep improving myself, keep finding more out about what I like and dislike. It allows me to be me, fully and completely me for a little bit longer because I never know when that little longer is going to come to an end. It could be today, maybe tomorrow or it could be years down the road. But that’s the thing with someday, you never know when the right person is going to pop up in your life.

The best thing you can do is stop waiting for someday, stop waiting for the someday love you keep being reminded about to make you feel better about being alone.

Being alone doesn’t have to be a bad thing, in fact it’s not a bad thing, it’s a great thing! You have the freedom to do whatever you please, spend all the time in the world on making yourself happy because you’re the only one who really matters in this life. Do your own thing, make yourself smile and love yourself first.

Once you do all those things someday might not seem so far away, you might stop craving the love from a mystery human and start accepting it from yourself.

There will still be times you feel empty and lost in the world, I’m not denying that, but loving yourself will make you stronger and feel better. It will make finding someone someday not seem so desperately important because you’re happy where you are.

Sometimes all I want to know is when the hell is someday going to come, but other days I like to embrace the fact that I never know who I’m going to meet and what they could bring to my life. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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