14 People Admit Why They ‘Ghosted’ When Things Seemed ‘Too Good To Be True’

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1. “Simply because if it seems too good to be true it probably is. The sincerity of our forming relationship scared me, so I left. She was a great girl and I’m sure I hurt her, but I’m a coward and I should have stayed instead of running at the first sign of something real, but now it’s too late.” – Tom, 24


2. “We met on Tinder and I never intended for things to get serious with him. Things were great, the first couple dates were fun and filled with laughs, but he wanted more than I did so I just stopped talking to him after our last date.” – Jackie, 23


3. “I just couldn’t find the words to tell her I wanted to see someone else. Things were really good, but I just couldn’t see a future with her.” – Tyler, 26


4. “He was so sweet and fun, but he wasn’t someone I could imagine dating long-term. He was more like a high school boyfriend who still found joy in doing stupid things, it was fun at first, but I realized I wanted someone with goals and he didn’t have any.” – Fiona, 24


5. “We were having so much fun together, but then he just stopped wanting to do anything. After our first few dates he just wanted to stay home and watch movies. I could start to tell he wasn’t actually as outgoing and fun as he tried to appear to me. I knew it wasn’t going to work at that moment.” – Vicky, 26


6. “She turned into a bitch real quick. She was so nice on the first date and through messaging, but then the second date she was extremely rude to the waitress and I noticed she started to point out other peoples flaws. Just not the kind of girl I thought she was at first. I wanted to give her an explanation, but I just figured it’d be better this way.” – Jared, 28


7. “Things were really good with this chick. We were hanging out for a couple months, but they just went way to fast and I know I’m partially to blame, but after a couple months I realized a relationship wasn’t what I wanted. I just slowly stopped talking to her because I couldn’t tell her I stopped having feelings for her. It was a shitty move, I know that, but I didn’t have the heart to tell her I wasn’t in to her anymore.” – Rob, 27


8. “We talked a while over Tinder, I really liked him (as much as you can over messaging, I guess). But after meeting him I was really turned off, he was a smoker and just couldn’t make conversation. He texted me after I left and asked to hangout again, but I just didn’t respond to any of his messages or Snapchats. I think he finally got the hint I was no longer interested.” – Carly, 22


9. “Things were REALLY good before we slept together. I liked him a lot, but then we had sex and I was so turned off I just couldn’t see him anymore. I just stopped talking to him because I couldn’t tell him I stopped being attracted to him because of how bad he was in bed, but that really was the reason. No way I could put myself through that more than once.” – Lily, 29


10. “I thought I was actually falling for this girl, things were really good for a few weeks, but even after just a few weeks she gave me an ultimatum of dating or not. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to date her and she seemed like she might be showing a bit of crazy, so I just stopped talking to her. I guess even without telling her I didn’t want to date her she got the message.” – Brad, 25


11. “I thought I really liked her until she gave me a blowjob and used her teeth. I’d rather fall off the face of the earth than let her put her teeth on my dick again. There was no way I was contacting her again after that.” – Stan, 27


12. “I was actually considering dating the last guy I ghosted, but after a month or so of talking he started becoming controlling. He started telling me who he did and didn’t like me hanging out with after a MONTH. I knew this was never going to work out, so I just bailed.” – Kristen, 23


13. “She started clinging to me like a magnet after the first date. We went out for dinner and a movie, the next thing I know she was blowing up my phone telling me how she likes me so much. She was just overbearing and a stage five clinger. I figured there was no easy to way to ditch this chick so maybe if I stopped answering her she would get the hint.” – Liam, 26


14. “I ghosted him because I found out he was talking to other girls behind my back. I know we weren’t exclusive, but seriously dude? I don’t deserve to be played and he definitely deserved to be ghosted.” – Morgan, 21 TC mark

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