If You’re The Girl Who Just Got A Boyfriend, Please Don’t Forget About Your Friends

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I know it’s hard, you feel like you want to spend every moment with him because you’re in the honeymoon stage where everything is wonderful and you can’t get enough of each other. You don’t want to skip a memory with him or miss out on a joke he tells. You don’t want to be without him for long because he’s all that’s weighing on your mind.

I know because I’ve been that girl. I disregarded my friends; I dropped everything and just spent every waking moment with my boyfriend. He’d be the last person I’d see at night and basically the first person I’d see in the morning. I wanted to spend every moment of my day with him and when I wasn’t with him I had my nose buried in my phone texting him.

I lost a lot of friends by continuously blowing them off for him to the point where they just stopped reaching out to me all together because they knew I wouldn’t come. But after we broke up (yes, of course we broke up) I had to gain my friendships back that I let die painfully fast all for a boy.

I didn’t realize how much of a piece of shit I was until months after we broke up and I watched my friends do what I did. I watched them fall in love, or at least fall ‘in like’ and then months or years later when they broke up only then did they come crawling back.

So, here is my advice to you…

Don’t put your friends on the back burner because you got a new boyfriend who makes you over the top happy.

I really do believe your friends are happy for you, but as happy as they are for you they are also missing you because just like that they feel like they lost a friend.

You stop putting effort into your relationship with your friends and solely start focusing on your relationships with your boyfriend. You don’t realize it right now because you’re only concerned with your feelings and your boyfriends. You don’t realize that you’re making your friend feel unbelievably alone, even if she doesn’t say anything.

You’re all lovey dovey with your man and she’s just kind of in the background, you almost wish she wasn’t with you because then you could just soak each other up without any interruptions.

You start to slowly stop texting your friends and start telling them you’ll let them know because you want to check with your BF first. You start throwing them to the side and start focusing all your time and energy on your boy instead of your friendships. And trust me, if you don’t notice your friends certainly do. They can see you changing when you might not even realize.

But here’s the kicker, when you fight with him, which is bound to happen sooner or later, you’re going to need your friends. You’re going to call your friends that you pushed away slowly, but surely and you’re going to want them to drop everything to comfort you and tell you everything will be okay. You’re going to need them when things get rocky and if you break up, you’re definitely going to need them then.

Don’t push away your friends, don’t start revolving your life around your boyfriend, find a healthy balance.

You don’t need to be constantly with your boyfriend, you don’t need to constantly be talking to him and checking in. You need to be your own person and you need to still have your own life.

Don’t lose your friends to your relationship because if and when someathing happens you’re going to be crawling back to them and trust me, they will notice and I can’t guarantee they will always be there. TC mark

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