You Don’t Need To Sweep Her Off Her Feet, You Just Need To Ask Her Out

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I’m so over Netflix and chill. I’m so done with being asked to watch a movie. I have zero interest in being asked to hangout. I don’t want you to ask me when I’m free or if I’m bored and want to do something. I don’t want any of that.

No one wants to be asked to casually hangout at someone’s house the first time they’re hanging out alone. That is sleazy and not appealing. I don’t want to sit awkwardly on your couch or lay in your bed to watch a movie; if I wanted to do that I could sit on my own couch in the comfort of my own home.

Men, is asking her on a date really that hard to do? Is it that difficult to say, “Would you like to go to dinner with me?” or breakfast, or get coffee, or literally anything that involves plans and going out.

All I want is to be asked out on a proper freaking date and I refuse to think that is too much to ask.

If I’m spending my time talking to you, obviously I’m interested in you. I don’t do it to occupy myself, I don’t do it because I’m feeling lonely or bored. I’m not doing it for any reason other than I find you interesting and I want to get to know you better. So, yes, I obviously would like to spend time with you.

When did it become so difficult to pick a time, a date and a place to meet? We could get ice cream, or lunch, or a beer, or go bungee jumping, hell I’m open to anything. I just want to actually do something.

Hiding behind a phone screen or computer screen all day sending witty messages back and forth just isn’t good enough for me and it honestly shouldn’t be enough for anyone. That isn’t a connection; it doesn’t allow growth or a relationship to form. The only thing that does is start the process of games and prolonging the far-fetched idea of face-to-face communication and a proper date.

And if you don’t want to take me out on a date, don’t talk to me! Holy shit, a brilliant idea.

I don’t want to waste my time and energy trying to seem appealing to someone who doesn’t have interest in me. I don’t want to try and come up with conversation and interesting topics to talk about. I have other things I’d rather be doing if the relationship is going no where in your mind.

Don’t think you’re doing me a favor by talking to me instead of ignoring me. Man up and tell me you’re not interested, it’s as simple as that.

And if you actually are interested, ask me out on a D A T E. It’s not that hard. Most girls are laid back, they are down to do most things, they just want to know what to wear, how to prepare and they’ll be excited you actually took initiative. All they really was is to spend time with you, they want to get to know you and see the kind of person you really are.

Games aren’t fun, texting isn’t fun, but getting to know a person face-to-face can be really fun. You can build a way stronger connection in person than you ever can over messaging.

No one wants to be asked to hangout. In all honesty, what does that even mean? Ask us out, tell us a date and time, if we can’t make it we will ask you if we can move it. Being asked out is an amazing feeling, when someone properly does it. It means he is serious, it means he is actually interested and he has confidence. Which is AMAZING.

I’m not asking you to buy me a house, I’m not asking you to cook me a gourmet meal, or show up doing back flips.

All I’m asking is for you to show up, to ask me out on a date.

If it doesn’t go well, you move on. If it goes well, great, we can see where it goes. Either way a date isn’t going to kill you.

No one likes rejection, but I can almost guarantee if she has been spending time talking to you and throwing hints out, there is almost a one hundred percent chance she will go out with you. So, man up and ask her on the date already! She will automatically think more of you. TC mark

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  • http://yala.wordpress.com Katrina

    Love this!

  • http://allensrepositoryofstuff.wordpress.com allensrepositoryofstuff

    I am guessing from the guy’s point of view they might be trying to play it cool, or being careful not to risk getting rejected. Netflix and chill sounds a lot less intimidating than asking her out for a date. Eventually, the guy is going to have to man up and step to the plate.

  • littleaprilshower

    I think asking a girl to “hangout” is a modern thing, which sucks.

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