“We can’t ALL just do whatever we want all day. If everyone followed their highest purpose in life, who would run the gas station? Who would collect the trash? Who would serve you at a restaurant? Who would repair your septic tank? There are people in this would that HAVE to be willing to do the ‘grunt’ work.”
This comment was left on a post I wrote about why you shouldn’t work at a job you hate.
I understand where she’s coming from. Sometimes it seems like finding your purpose is out of reach.
You started your life with big dreams. We all do. But sometimes the experience of life can crush those dreams. You’re taught to conform. You’re given a set of beliefs about the way life is supposed to be. You learn to follow the rules.
The Rules of Society
Failure is bad. You’ve been conditioned to have a negative view of failure since Kindergarten. The school system teaches you that failure is something to be avoided at all costs. In order to “pass,” you have to follow instructions and obey directions. This causes you to play it safe your entire life. An entrepreneur who makes the right decisions 60% of the time will end up being quite successful. But in school a 60% is an F. To be successful you have to see failure as an opportunity — for learning, growth, and feedback. Failure is a stepping stone something better.
Don’t make waves. Don’t stand out from the crowd. Doing something different makes you vulnerable and subject to ridicule. Behave. Obey. Don’t be disruptive. You were brought up in an education system that was structured around the industrial revolution. There was a high demand for obedient workers who could sit still and perform tedious tasks. Times have changed. In today’s world, fitting in is harmful.
Be realistic. Choose a career that’s safe. Find a job with a nice salary and benefits. Don’t do anything “risky.” This is the old way of thinking. The paradigm shift has already begun. There’s evidence showing it’s safer than ever to be an entrepreneur. The ones who stick to the 9 to 5 route may be in trouble. With an uncertain economical future, it’s best for you to build something of your own.
Most of the people you look up to are rule breakers. They followed their own path. They sought a life with meaning. They knew they were destined for something great and chose that route over safety and security.
You can be someone other people look up to. You can live the life you were destined for. You can find your life’s purpose. But you have to leap.
Until you take the leap, you’re always going to be stuck. Stuck in a job you dislike. Stuck in a repetitive routine that drives you nuts. Stuck in a life you don’t want to be living.
Every last one of you has a purpose. There is a specific reason you were put on this planet. Your mission is to find it.
Today I’m going to share some reasons why it’s your obligation to find your life’s purpose.
You Owe Us
It’s not just about you. It’s about the gift you’re meant to share with the world. It’s selfish to hold back your talents and abilities.
We need the book you’re meant to write, the song you’re meant to sing, the disease you’re meant to cure, the movement you’re meant to start.
Your life doesn’t just belong to you. It belongs to all of us. You’re called to do something in your life that benefits other people. We need you.
You Don’t Want To Have Regrets
Today is the youngest you’ll ever be. You still have time, but the clock’s ticking. It’s difficult to peer far into your future, but if you don’t find your life’s purpose and live with meaning, you’re going to regret it.
This is what happens during a “mid-life crisis.” A small piece of your soul is taken from you each day you spend living your life without purpose. You don’t even feel it until it’s too late. All of the sudden regret punches you square in the face.
You’re always going to regret the things you didn’t do. You’re not going to regret pursuing your dreams.
You Deserve To Experience Flow
Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi coined the term flow.
“During flow, people typically experience deep enjoyment, creativity, and a total involvement with life.”
This feeling can also be described as being “in the zone.” You’ve experienced flow at some point in your life. During flow you lose your sense of self and you’re lost in the joy of the moment.
You deserve to experience flow. Your goal should be to experience flow as often as possible. Finding your life’s purpose replaces those moments of tedium, monotony, and boredom, with moments of full engagement and true happiness.
You’re Wired For Accomplishment
Some people say it’s self-centered to want accolades or to be recognized for achievements. Others say it’s in our DNA.
In the book Social by Harvard professor Matthew Lieberman, he says that human beings are wired to seek recognition from their peers. Achievement and accomplishment makes you feel good.
What’s wrong with other people appreciating the work you do? Nothing.
Don’t listen to the people speaking from a limitation mindset. You’re meant to be great.
You Only Live Once
Think deeply about your mortality. You’re going to die – perhaps sooner than later. Do you want to spend your precious time on earth doing things that offer little engagement?
There are no “do-overs.” Each day brings you closer to your death.
It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day struggle. Sometimes you lose sight of how amazing it is to be alive. You forget that your life is a gift. You forget that you’re supposed to treat something precious with care.
Don’t squander your life away.
How to find your life’s purpose
You know it’s important to find your life’s purpose. But how do you do it?
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