Settling is so much easier these days than waiting for the things you really want or deserve. We live in a world of “Netflix and chill,” “ghosting,” and accepting less than we deserve.
We take the easy way out for several reasons—it’s too much work, we’ve been burned before, uncertainty of the unknown, and so much more. However, it’s time to stop doing this. It’s time to slam on the breaks of instant gratification. It’s time to start accepting the love you deserve.
To quote Kirstie Alley in It Takes Two, we’re looking for that love that stops you dead in your tracks. You know, “That can’t eat, can’t sleep, reach for the stars over the fence, World Series kind of love.”
Wait for the love that stops you dead in your tracks, the one that you catch yourself going, “woah.”
It’s the kind of love you’ve always dreamed about, seen in movies but never in a million years expected to happen to you.
It’s the kind of love that fills you with so many emotions at once, but it’s a love that is comfortable.
It’s finding someone who on a normal day puts equal effort into your relationship but knows that there are times that one of you has to pick up the slack.
This love grows and learns as it continues to move forward. Your heart races at the thought of this person but at the same time has this feeling of calmness. This love causes you to pause and, all of a sudden, all of your failed relationships before make perfect sense.
This is the love that allows you to still be an individual that places high value on the things you want in life while creating a new journey with someone else who is doing the same thing.
The kind of love that stops you in your tracks doesn’t come with strings or requirements. It comes with openness and open communication. It comes with the understanding that life and love is not always a fairy tale and requires hard work sometimes.
The kind of love that that stops you in your tracks is loyal, patient, kind, and enduring. It knows how to apologize and accept constructive criticism.
The kind of love that stops you in your tracks is respectful. The other person values your trust and wouldn’t imagine doing anything to jeopardize it.
The kind of love that stops you in your tracks brings laughter and joy. This person will make you laugh until it hurts. The only tears you’ll cry are tears of joy.
The kind of love that stops you in your tracks is the forever kind. The one where the future doesn’t make sense without the other person, not in the sense that you can’t live without them, but in the sense that you wouldn’t want to.
The kind of love that stops you in your tracks makes you a better individual. It pushes you to thrive and be the best version of yourself.
Stay single until you find the love that stops in you in tracks because you deserve it. You deserve someone who respects you that wants to grow with you, and that isn’t going to take advantage of the kind heart you have.
Stay single because you shouldn’t settle for temporary; you shouldn’t accept less than you deserve.
The love that stops you in your tracks is worth the wait. It’s the a-ha moment. It’s finding someone who, in a room full of silence, you don’t feel uncomfortable with. It’s letting yourself be 100% you and not worrying that it isn’t okay or wanted.
Stay single until you find the love that stops you in your tracks, because you’re not second best.
The kind of love that stops you in your tracks is out there waiting, and you can’t find it if you settle for less.
So don’t take the easy out. Stay single and wait for your “woah” moment, because I promise you it is worth it.