Everyone always starts to worry when you’ve been single for a certain amount of time. “When are they going to get back out there?” “Isn’t it lonely without someone?” “Do they really want to be single forever?” These questions can start to eat away at your mental and emotional state; however you shouldn’t let the idea of ending up alone petrify you.
Sometimes being alone is better than settling for less than you deserve. We hold onto things because letting go can be difficult. We let things slide that we wouldn’t allow our friends to go through because we don’t want to end up alone or deal with the stigma that comes along with it, but you know what?
The reality of it is maybe I’ll end up alone, and you know what it’s more than okay.
A significant other doesn’t change my value or define my life. Just because I’m not with someone doesn’t mean I’m not happy. I am surrounded by a strong group of friends, family that is supportive and a career that I enjoy.
I’m not looking for Netflix and chill or casual hookups, and swiping left and right is okay but it just isn’t for me. I won’t judge anyone for their choices but I shouldn’t have to participate in things are culturally expected for my generation. If it works for you I am so happy for that but it isn’t for me.
I’m starting to readjust my thinking about relationships and what makes a happy life. Focusing on myself to really evaluate what makes me happy in life. I want to be a better person; I want to be happy but not superficially happy. I want to focus on growing, traveling, soaking up all the wonderful life events without worrying about finding Mr. Right.
Maybe one day in the future I’ll meet someone, they’ll spark something in my soul. Maybe that fairy tale is out there, I’m not saying that I’m completely ruling it out. If it happens then I will be able to go into it with a clear head. I will have learned how to love myself, to know what I want and need in life. I will have strong bonds with friends and family.
I won’t have settled for less than I deserve.
If it doesn’t come I also won’t be devastated. Perhaps it just isn’t in my cards. I may end up with some dogs or cats but it doesn’t make me a crazy person. In the end I will have lived a fulfilled life with no regrets.
The only person in the end that I have to answer to is myself, it is really that simple. There are so many other things in life that are so much worse than living by yourself. I refuse to lessen my life look at is as a failed. I’m not a failure, I’m brilliant and I will continue to live a wonderful life no matter what is thrown my way.
I don’t know, maybe I’ll end up alone but you know what maybe that’s okay.