Be The Woman Who Does Whatever The Hell She Wants

Caden Crawford
Caden Crawford

Seriously, there is so much pressure on girls today to be a certain way, how to dress, what career paths to take, what activities are deemed acceptable to society.

Since when is it okay for someone else to dictate the way you should live your life? We’re only given one life to live, one life to make the most of, to accomplish our goals and dreams and to be happy.

So do whatever the hell makes you happy.

I know, it sounds so much simpler than it is, but really? I know you are the girl who puts everyone else before you, the girl who cares about what everyone else thinks and will put herself on the back burner if it means keeping someone else happy.

You tell your friends to enjoy life, to not listen to others when they put your dreams down, yet you never take your own advice.

It’s time to start doing the things that make you happy, thinking the thoughts that make you smile and stop caring what other people are going to think about your choices.

There will always be people out there that won’t agree with you, won’t agree with the choices you make but in the end those that care about you the most will support every decision you make.

If you’re unhappy with where you live, move and explore the world. Don’t just find a job; find a career that is going to make you happy when you get up every morning to go to work, versus grumbling and groaning about it every day. If you want to go to school, study something that is important to you, not something that someone else thinks you’d be good at.

It doesn’t matter if you rather be an art major versus a medical student; it’s what makes you happy. Join clubs, make friends in circles that you normally wouldn’t and branch out and soak up all the information you can.

Look at yourself and decide what you want, whether that means having a long conversation with yourself or talking to someone you trust. Whether you need to keep a journal and go back to it each time you forget why you’re on the path you are on.

Life isn’t always easy, but the paths we take are not permanent. You can make mistakes, make as many as you can because at least then you are living life. Learn from these mistakes and screw anyone who judges you for living a happy life.

If you want to fall in love go for it, find the one who speaks a song only you can understand. If you want to have a family then that’s wonderful but even if you don’t that’s perfectly fine as well. You don’t have to stick to society’s standards of what a woman should do and should be. If you don’t want kids then don’t have them. It doesn’t make you any less of a woman.

Wear what you want, shop where you want, wear the brighter shade of lipstick and walk down that sidewalk with your head held high. It’s a great thing about finding confidence in yourself, it doesn’t matter what others think, it matters how comfortable you are and that you are happy.

Be a healthy version of you, take care of your body because you’re only given one. That doesn’t mean you can’t indulge and enjoy the finer things in life and that doesn’t mean that you have to hate the way you look because you don’t fit what the world wants you to look like.

You are an individual, a beautiful woman who will not be defined by society’s depiction of a woman.

You want to watch football on Sundays, drink a beer and hang out with the guys? Fantastic. You want to attend brunch and dress nice and paint? Great. These are two completely different scenarios and you could one day do one and another day you could do the other and it doesn’t matter because you’re doing the things that make you happy.

Stop worrying if you’re going to fit in with everyone, because you weren’t born to blend in with everyone else, you were born to stand out. Don’t let the world steal your shine, because life is way too short to not do whatever it is you want. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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