“Life is tough my darling but so are you.”
– Stephanie Bennett-Henry
The most important thing I want you to take away from this is that you are most definitely, without a doubt good enough. I need you to remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
I know there is a good chance you are rolling your eyes at that statement, you may be muttering to yourself, “yeah right” or “whatever” but mutter away cause it’s true.
It’s tough being the girl who cares too much. The girl who would do anything for those she cares about without wanting anything in return.
I totally get that. It can take a toll on a person.
You’re the girl that overthinks everything. The one who worries about everyone before worrying about herself. You’re the girl who loves with her whole heart. You jump in with no hesitations. You’re also the girl who’s had her heart broken because of it. The one who at the end of the day begins to question everything.
You need to erase this idea that there is something wrong with you. Delete the notion that you’re unlovable, that you have some sort of personality flaw that stops someone from loving you.
You see the problem was never you. It’s the boy you openly gave your heart to, that couldn’t see the value in your love. A guy who took a heart of gold and tried to tarnish it. A guy who doesn’t deserve the love you’ve continuously tried to give him. If he makes you feel like you’re not good enough, he isn’t good enough.
Forget that guy because as much as losing him hurts, there will be someone to pick up the pieces and help you leave him in the dust. There is someone out there who will show you how a real gentleman treats a lady.
Let me tell you, you deserve a man that will lift you up, help you believe in yourself, remind you fairy tales do exist and that you can have your own Nicholas Sparks tale, but it’ll be even better cause it will be your own.
Stop comparing yourself to every other girl out there. You were born to be different, to be an individual. You’re not supposed to be like everyone else, otherwise you wouldn’t be you.
Just because she has some features you wish you had, doesn’t mean you aren’t deserving of the same things she is, it doesn’t make you any less of a woman. She may be taller, weigh a little less than you but it doesn’t make her better. Chances are there are things she doesn’t like about herself as well.
The things you see as flaws or imperfections make you the wonderful woman you are.
Stop looking at yourself in the mirror feeling disgusted. Stop picking out all the things you hate about yourself. Focus on all the good. Stop telling yourself that if you lost a few pounds everything would be better. Stop convincing yourself your weight is a reason to not be worthy.
You have to learn to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you.
I promise there will be a guy who will love every little thing about you, even your love handles, the way your hairs a mess when you wake up and every other thing you think is wrong with your body.
Please know that the scale doesn’t define you. You may be skinnier than other girls or you may be a little more curvaceous and both of those are perfectly fine. Embrace it all, because you are beautiful.
Forget those who make you feel any less deserving of respect, love, honesty, loyalty and trust. In fact tell them bye felicia. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out, because those who refuse to see your worth or helped put the notion that you’re not good enough is someone you don’t need around.
Love yourself. You are wonderful and worthy.
You are more than “good enough.” You’re great, and your strengths outweigh your weaknesses everyday.
You are beautiful, strong, intelligent, witty, sarcastic, funny and worthy. You’re a genuinely beautiful soul and a fantastic woman, so please believe in yourself, and screw the haters.
From one girl who let the world tell her she wasn’t good enough, it’s time we start believing we are.