You’re avoiding what you need to do. You’re waiting until the last minute, hoping that something will change. This behavior is procrastination.
Procrastination comes from loving the rush of learning but not the reality of taking steps to get there. You’re afraid to fail. Somewhere in your programming, a loved one told you that you weren’t good enough. Now you’re on a constant quest for perfection. You didn’t leave room for errors and are exhausted before you start.
Continuing down this path keeps you from achieving your dreams, from actualizing. You’ll get better over time, but you need to begin somewhere. Moving is how you create flow. It’s through trial and error.
“Failure is a man-made circumstance. It is never real until accepted by man as permanent.” – Napoleon Hill.
A mentality of lack drives your fear of failure. You hold tight to anything you’re nervous about losing, but blessings come when you think in abundance. You move forward through subtle mindset shifts.
You’re scared that you’re asking for too much. You’re afraid of being too much. You’re afraid of getting what you want, yet still being unhappy. You’re petrified of the end. You’re scared that once you’ve arrived, there’ll be no place else to go.
What you’re terrified of is leaving your old self behind.
You already know what to do. You don’t need any more gurus. You don’t need to go skydiving, eat scorpions, wear your lucky thong, or sacrifice puppies. You only need to do the work and do it consistently. You need to trust that you know enough to be better than you were yesterday.
Either you believe you can or you don’t. I’m not saying that it’s easy, but you don’t have to make it harder than it needs to be. Struggling is not a prerequisite for your life.
If you require more knowledge, take a course.
When you need support, ask for help.
If you don’t feel appreciated for your work, negotiate.
If you’re still unsatisfied, level up and leave.
You’re constantly evolving through life experiences. Sometimes you need reminders along the way. Sometimes you get distracted and lose track.
This is your reminder.
Most likely, you’ve already found some habits that work for you. Revisit them. Most likely, you already have someone who inspires you. Learn from them. Most likely, the new information you think you’ve learned is recycled information said differently.
Most likely, you already know what to do. You only need to start.
1. You start with small steps. You measure your progress with where you were yesterday, not other people.
2. You start with compassion. You don’t document success by what you’ve achieved. It’s about how kind you were to yourself in the process.
3. You start with consistency. Don’t take on more than you can handle. Do one thing and do it diligently. In his book The One Thing, Gary Keller says that “until my one thing is done—everything else is a distraction.” Move your thoughts into action.
4. You start with a plan. Map out exactly how you’re going to achieve your goal. You begin by looking at what’s already worked and sticking to the course.
You don’t need more self-help. You need to apply what you already know. You only need to start.