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I Don’t Know How To Be Alive Correctly

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Sometimes the alarm goes off and I press snooze like it actually says stop. Like it says TRY AGAIN ANOTHER DAY. Like the apocalypse is seconds away so who really needs to get up and shower, you know?

It’s weird to be considered happy by everyone I know when waking up feels a bit like a failure. I am always looking for the right words. Like EMOTIONS ARE SEPARATE FROM DEPRESSION. Like I am goofy and loud and laughing but that doesn’t negate the empty. Like a jack-o’-lantern is still hollow even if it’s smiling.

I know there is no right way to be alive. I know there is sometimes just this, survival. And dirt. And clawing our way out of the thick of it.

I know there is only this, my heart and it beating and how goddamn beautiful that really is. And then the confusion of not seeing beauty. Of not getting it. Of seeing art in a museum and wondering why everyone is in awe.

You ever look at the ocean and not understand what you’re supposed to be excited about? You ever wake up and press your finger to your chest and not understand how you are so alive but nothing feels like it?

Sometimes the alarm goes off and I press snooze. But I still get up. That’s something, right? TC mark

Ari Eastman

✨ real(ly not) chill. poet. writer. mental health activist. mama shark. ✨


In her third poetry collection, Ari Eastman takes us through a very personal journey of growing up, loss, love, and surviving it all.

there are too many rooms here, 
too many places
for my grief to sit

★★★★★ “Absolutely gorgeous writing. one of my new favorite collections of poetry. covers topics from grief to feminism to mental health and on. would definitely recommend to anyone even somewhat interested in poetry.” —Jessica

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Love a soft person. The ones who are positive, even in the worst of circumstances. Someone whose strength is not in bravado, but in their quiet. Someone who is strong for others because that is what is needed in that moment. Someone who is the moon that soothes instead of the sun that burns. Someone who sees the very best in people even when you think they aren’t worth it. The kind of person who always wants to do the best for those they love.

“I bought this on a whim to read as I was resting for the night, and I do not regret it one bit! Everything about the poetry in this book is amazing, heart breaking, and soul searching. It will lift your spirits on your darkest days. I want to thank the author so much for writing this, as it’s something I will be rereading a lot! Always remember, everything about you is important. You matter.” —McKayla

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