If You Aren’t Insanely Excited To See Them, They’re Not ‘The One’

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There are times when it feels like the idea of The One has become so archaic.

In this bustling world teeming with billions of different people, how are we expected to have one singular perfect match? Doesn’t it just seem illogical? I mean, mathematically, how could it even be? How do you find the needle in the haystack, the diamond in the rough?

I think The One is a much more malleable concept than we’re told. Maybe you can find potential in everyone, but only certain relationships will have staying power. Maybe it’s all about commitment and effort – what both parties are willing to put into it.

I can’t tell you what necessarily makes someone The One, the kind of person you look at and say, “Yep, this is it. This is my forever.”

But I do know if you aren’t excited to see your person, they probably aren’t your person. They aren’t your One.

I don’t know when we started believing passion eventually fades. It’s the tired television trope of married couples that seem to not even like each other anymore. Canned sitcom laughter exploding when they make jokes about how they never have sex. Like this is what all married couples eventually go through. Like the fire will always go out.

I refuse to believe butterflies eventually go away.

Hell, call me naive. But I don’t think all flames die down. They shouldn’t.

Are you going to be excited and happy and thrilled to see your partner at all times? No, of course not. You’re a human. You’ll have your days of frustration and annoyance. But at the end of the day, you should still always like them. You should genuinely enjoy who they are.

If you’re with someone right now, regardless of how long you’ve been together, and the thought of being with them doesn’t fill your heart with joy and light, maybe they are just a For Now person.

The One looks different for everyone. The One means something different, too. But they should still make you flutter. You should always look forward to seeing them.

If you don’t? Your “One” is probably out there. Your “One” is probably still waiting to meet you. TC mark

Ari Eastman

✨ real(ly not) chill. poet. writer. mental health activist. mama shark. ✨

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