Okay, so maybe watching porn isn’t your thing. And that’s okay. Not everyone likes it or at least doesn’t admit they like it. Which is fine. No judgement here! But if you’re looking to spice up your sex life with your partner (or yourself) there’s a much more discreet and subtle way to get your juices flowing (literally). It’s called reading erotica and if you’ve never tried it, you need to.
And here’s why.
Break Down Your “No Porn” Walls
The music. The awful dialogue and bad acting. The obnoxious noises. Visual porn can be a little too much to handle for some people. And though you may never get into watching pornographic material, reading erotica is a great way to ease into finding your more sexual side.
It’s just words. Words on a page. There’s no photographs or sound effects. You can read it in the privacy of your own home, on a plane or anywhere else, really. If things are getting a little dull in the sex department and you’re looking to add a little excitement, think of reading erotica as dipping your toes into the pool of sexual experimentation instead of diving in, head first.
Who doesn’t love a good orgasm? And who doesn’t love a good book? Bam! Erotica combines these two pleasure into one user-friendly activity. Reading alone is a great way to escape the mundane reality of everyday life. It gives you something to focus on other than work, finances, and friends. Reading suggestive material could lead to some hands-on fun (pun intended), which brings its own set of stress relieving benefits.
No, reading erotica alone will not result in an orgasm. Sorry, ladies. But reading steaming scenarios is the perfect way to get you in the mood. And if it does lead to an orgasm, you’re not only calming your entire mind and body but you’re burning calories. It’s a win-win!
Discover Your Inner Most Desires
If you’re not very adept at sending your mind to new and adventurous places when it comes to sex, erotica can do this for you. There are countless scenarios, match-ups, relationship dynamics, and back stories found in erotica. Whether it’s a sharp-dressed man meeting a coworker for cocktails or a naughty nurse taking care of her patient, your creative mind will run wild while reading erotica. You might stumble across a fantasy you never knew you had. Certain stories might peak your sexual interest and excite you in unexpected ways. The best part is, you can apply your findings to real life by experimenting in the bedroom with a partner.
It Doesn’t Feel Quite So Dirty
There’s something much more private and unassuming about reading pornographic material versus watching it. So what, you curl up in bed with a good book that just happens to describe sexual encounters instead of low-calorie recipes? No one needs to know.
And that’s the other great thing about erotica – you can make your experience as private or as public as you wish. No one ever has to know you’ve read a single page. Or, you can share your favorite stories with a partner, which can also be done in an unassuming way. Earmark the pages your responded to most and leave your favorite erotica book on your partner’s side of the bed. Once they read the story you chose, knowing you enjoyed it will be an instant turn on. And this little tactic can act as great foreplay for later.
It’s a Confidence Booster
Sexuality is beautiful. And exploring your own most intimate wants, needs, and desires is both healthy and beneficial for learning self-love and boosting your confidence. When you read erotica and begin exploring your desires and your body, it’s extremely empowering. You feel strong, confident, and in control of what you want and how you want it. So start taking control of your desires and creating a more intimate connection with your inner vixen.