Have you come across contrasting upbringings in different homes? Sure enough, that made you wonder about what could be the right perspective, and the varied patterns led you to doubt the intention of your actions. Every person is unique, and so is every couple’s mindset, but good parenting boils down to establishing a relationship with your child. However, there are some fundamental characteristics and principals that parents need to imbibe.
At times, parenting can deceivingly seem to be a kicker and drain all of your tolerance. It’s at such times when you need to realize that your actions can leave quite an impact you would regret allowing. Patience is a virtue and so is impatience. One instance will cause no harm but, repetition can leave a scar.
Avoid breaking a conversation, hear out your child; break the rush in your schedule and just spend time with them, your company is more than needed. Don’t let it take your calm away!
2. Set Aside Time To Connect
As parent’s, your responsibility to your child deserves more than your job. It doesn’t mean you quit; dedicate time to spend with your child on a daily basis, so they know, it’s your time with them. Let this not be something you need to do but, something you want to do. With genuine love and an established relationship with your child, this will never be a challenge.
3. Watch Your Emotions
When situations get out of control, or you aren’t able to control its outcome, know that your response to it can set an example for your child. Whether they break an essential or score low at school, take a step back, calm yourself and then, deal with it the way you would consider to be mature.
Anger and negative responses or gestures can be behaviors learnt by watching.
This will build a healthy and fear free relationship with your child.
4. Disown Domination
If you have been trying to show that you’re the boss, you would’ve noticed that it didn’t quite work. Yes, the parents are the ones that need to be listened to, and the kids should obey has been passed on for probably the right reasons, and not for establishing authority.
Take time just to hear your little one out and see their point, let them be the boss sometimes; of course within the acceptable limits. Let there be space for freedom and interaction rather than having children live in a hostile environment.
5. Being A Good Parent Is Also About Being A Great Partner
Parenting is also about respecting your partner, keeping them in good light before your kids. Well, you could do that by openly expressing your love or just doing sweet things for each other. This will help make you a better parent, a better partner and inspire your kids when they grow up too!
6. Show Interest In Their Life
The child needs to know that you are interested in their life to break the ice and hear more from them. It is vital to establish the parent-child rapport. Be ready to break your flow of work to sit and have a talk or laugh with them, play along or just sit for your daughter’s kitty party.
Through it all, with every gesture and action, let them know that you love them unconditionally.
They need to know you care, and this can happen only if they see that you do.
7. Don’t Snap Back
Children indeed make mistakes and adults do too. Can we get too caught up with our work that we miss the point of our child’s intention? Yes, this is very possible and holding back to process the response can save their day. While children are sensitive, negative vibes from their parents can disturb their mood. Patience and tolerance need to be developed over time to deal with the kids in peace.
8. Don’t Miss Your Open Door
Research shows that it is within the 2-12 years bracket that the parents can impact their child best. This can mean negative impact or even positive. It is the best time to train your child to cultivate good values and morals. This is the core of your motherhood and fatherhood; your parenting pays off here. It certainly might not be an easy road, but take this phase as the only time you have to shape your child into the person who steps out with patience, self-discipline and respect.
9. Catch The Good
As humans, we get so stuck with finding the faults of others, even with our children, in spite of the love we have for them. Encouragement and appreciation can do the magic while, scolding the child can curb their self-esteem.
Catch their good behavior and tell them that you were impressed by that or that they did a fantastic job; this can solve things much better than a harsh rebuke.
10. You Can Do It
And after all, that you needed to know about how to bring up your child in the most beautiful way, what’s left is, you and your spouse to know that you can do it. Yes, say that to yourself!
There is no perfect way to bring up your child that defies other perceptions. Just build that strong bond with your kid and never let go of these 10 characteristics to make your parenting most effective.