I am an avid believer that everything happens for a reason. Your first love in high school that broke your heart- it was actually a blessing in disguise. I had my first serious boyfriend when I was a junior in high school. Even though we were inseparable and in love, our relationship was far from healthy. I thought I would never be able to get over him and I actually believed at the time that I wouldn’t find anyone else. Even though he cheated on me numerous times, I couldn’t walk away and I didn’t know why. I know many other girls have been in the same exact place as I was. We permanently split when I left for college and it was the best feeling ever knowing I had finally gotten the courage to walk away from an unhealthy relationship that was going nowhere. It was also a lesson learned. Six months later, I met a new guy and we are currently still dating. It made me realize that I should never settle for anything less than what I deserve and that there is someone out there for me. I want every other girl have that same realization if they are in an unhealthy relationship. You need to accept a few things first:
1. A Guy Will Not Change For You
As much as we want to believe that a guy will change for us, they won’t. Not to mention, you shouldn’t have to ask someone to change for you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “it will be different, I promise.”
2. If He Cheated Once, He’ll Do It again
Once a guy cheats on you and you forgive him, he knows he’ll keep getting away with it. If he really loves you as much as he says he does, he wouldn’t have even entertained the thought of cheating. It’s not hard to be faithful, remember that. Walk away from cheaters because they will continue to cheat.
3. It’s Not You, It’s Him
As cliché as this sounds, it’s true. Don’t ever underestimate your self-worth because of a guy who isn’t treating you the way you deserve to be treated. I make this mistake all the time. I end up blaming myself. You are good enough; in fact, you’re too good for him.
4. The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side
If a relationship isn’t working out, then the grass is definitely greener on the other side and that’s a promise. You cannot keep telling yourself things will get better because the Universe has something even better waiting for you.
5. You Cannot Settle For Less, Ever
I’ve heard these words a million and one times. It’s the most important words you’ll ever hear in terms of relationships. Why settle for Mcdonald’s when you can eat at a 5 star restaurant? I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s crucial to walk away from a relationship that is causing more heartache than happiness.