Let’s all just revel in this madness that is a quarter-life crisis — you feel like you don’t know who you are or what you want, you may have recently acquired a Xanax prescription and binge eating cheese and watching GIRLS are not at all uncommon Friday night activities.
It’s okay. I’m here for you and I understand the pain of the 20-something graphic-designer-turned-entrepreneur-turned-world-traveler. Sit, read and internalize these sentiments of a fellow 20-something for a more hopeful, positive outlook on the mental breakdown spiritual awakening that is your 20s.
1. You’re not alone. Even your seemingly perfect friend whose vice is a juice cleanse and some yoga is feeling weird about life. Everyone is confused. Whether it’s about a relationship or career moves or where to live, there’s at least one aspect of life that’s up in the air for everyone.
2. When you’re hurting, you’re growing. According to therapist Claire Maurer-Hogan, these times of crippling confusion and accompanying sadness or anxiety are all leading up to a moment of clarity and growth. It’s like deep-cleaning your house or apartment—it has to get worse before it can get better.
3. It’s never been more acceptable to focus on yourself. This is a time for self-reflection, discovery and some soul searching. What may have been considered selfish in other times of life is now encouraged if not necessary. Take advantage!
4. On a lighter note, you have an excuse for binge-eating those 10 cupcakes last night. In short, you’re going through a difficult time and you’re bound to slip into some mild coping mechanisms from time to time. It’s all going to be okay, ‘cause (insert vice). Just try to stay away from the crack.
5. Whether you realize it or not, you’re working towards self-discovery. And all the nights of tear-stained cheeks, hours spent at your soul-sucking job and emotional breakdowns worthy of a Dr. Phil episode will be worth it in the end. When all is said and done, you’ll be in a better place.