I’m not usually someone who uses profanity but I am at my wits end right now. I fucking hate everyone who hates on sluts. And guess what? I happen to be a slut. There, I said it.

I told my friend Jennifer that I hooked up with our mutual friend, Leo, this morning. Admittedly it came out of nowhere but I had no regrets afterward. When I told Jennifer about it on the phone a few minutes ago she lost her shit and called me a “stupid slut”.

Look: I like having sex. I enjoy it. But according to Jennifer and half the people on the internet I’m supposed to be ashamed of that. I’m supposed to be ashamed of the fact that I get off on being wanted. I’m supposed to be ashamed of the fact that I enjoy giving myself to people. I’m supposed to be ashamed that I actually like oral sex and don’t consider it a big deal.

“Slut!” they call me. “You’re a stupid slut!”. In real life or here on the internet that’s what the call me when I tell them about what I do or have done.

So, fine: I’m a slut. A proud slut. Every single day I have to deal with sexual harassment at work and every freakin’ time I let my gender be known online I have to deal with sexual harassing comments/messages. Men are so hypocritical: they want me to be a slut but the second they realize I am one they want to yell at me for it.

No more. I’m a slut and I’m not ashamed. I’ll remain safe and careful but I will never again apologize.

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