When Your Friends Hate Your Significant Other, Listen To Them

Your friends are always right.

As my mother loves to remind me, “love is blind.” This means that despite the fact that you think your relationship is the equivalent of Noah and Allie and even though you fight all the time, you’re meant for each other, the hard times make the good times better, and every other lame excuse from an inspirational picture on pinterest, your parents and friends and acquaintances and extended family and literally everyone thinks this relationship is just a huge disaster and want you to break up RIGHT NOW.

You think to yourself, “We’ll prove them wrong! We’re the exception!” No. Your love is blind and you can’t see from the outside how horrible the relationship is. For your friends and family and whoever, watching you two together is like watching a horror movie and yelling at the TV not to do something stupid, but the people in the movie just never listen and do it anyways and end up with their heads chopped off.

After three years of on-and-off and listening to friends for a while and then saying “I miss them so much, you’re not my real friend if you don’t support this relationship because I’m happy!,” you realize they were right all along.

When it comes to getting back together, you probably don’t actually love and miss that person. You love and miss the feelings you had when you were together, the comfort, the knowledge that somebody cares about your existence, having somebody to talk to nonstop, and the memories of the good times.

You miss the idea of them, not that actual person.

So listen to your friends. They can see clearly while you’re looking at this through a fog of loneliness. If your friends and family are telling you it’s wrong, then get off your high horse and listen to them. Why are they saying that? Is it because you should accept that this relationship probably isn’t going to work out in the long run? A happy relationship can be hard enough, but dealing with family and friends when they hate your significant other is a whole ‘nother ball game. (And more often than not, you’re going to lose.)

If you think you’re the exception, you’re not. You are not Noah and Allie, you are not Cory and Topanga. You just need to accept the fact that this fish isn’t a winner, throw it back, and catch yourself a prize.

After all, the friends and family who love you through the strife and heartbreak are a prize in and of themselves.