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I Don’t Believe In Soulmates, But I Believe In You

When I was a child, I used to believe in soulmates. I thought every person in the world was meant to be one other person and live happily ever after. I thought when I met my soulmate, I would just know, and I would fall in love. I thought life with a soulmate would be a dream, and it would be magical.

Then I grew up.

I met some people who I thought were my soulmate but soon realized were not. I kept looking for my soulmate as if they had the key to unlock the secrets of my heart. I still thought the purpose of my life was to find my soulmate who would also be my best friend and help me navigate through life.

I was hopeful and also a bit delusional.

I had read too many fairy tales and watched too many romantic movies. I didn’t know art doesn’t always imitate life, though they are beautiful ideas that I could waste hours and months of my life daydreaming about.

I was so blinded by the illusion of a soulmate that I struggled with believing in logic.

Then I met you.

I was intrigued because I had been disappointed in the past for chasing fictional characters who had concealed their true colors. I had been burned in the past for believing words that never turned into actions.

Meeting you was nothing like a fairy tale or a romantic comedy—it felt real and not imaginary. I didn’t fall in love the instant I met you, because I was cautious, but also curious.

I felt the excitement of something new, but I never felt the fear of a potential disaster. I felt safe, and I felt you would protect my heart. I couldn’t hear my heart breaking at a distance like I had experienced before.

I don’t believe in soulmates, but I believe in you, because I know you are the one I am choosing to be with for life. I am not your soulmate, but I know you have chosen me for your forever.

I think the idea of The One is absurd.

There is no such thing as ‘meant to be,’ as lovely as it may sound; the truth is every relationship that lasts is a choice. You and I were not drawn to each other from across the continent. We chose each other, and we chose to stay in each other’s lives.

It isn’t sorcery, it is work.

The idea of a soulmate sounds splendid, but so does a unicorn, and they are better off left in the books and movies.

The most magical and beautiful thing in the world is real love. It is the magnificent love that grows stronger every day with the work you put into it. It is the love that will never grow if you run around admiring other plants.

I believe in love because of you, because you taught me that love is work, and it is the most beautiful work we will ever do. Our love is like a tree that we nurture and protect from the storms of the outside world. The more work we put into our love, the stronger it will get.

I don’t believe in soulmates, but I believe in you, because love is not a make-believe concept that is so easy. Love is a real emotion between two people that is not always pretty.

I don’t believe that you were put on this planet to find me and be with me. I was not born to find you to complete my life.

I think the only magic I believe in is you. You are the magic that helped me find faith in love. You taught me that love is more than just a ‘happily ever after’ on the last page of a fairy tale.

You showed me that love is an everyday process. Love is never meant to be; love is when you choose to be.

I don’t believe in soulmates, but I believe in you with all my heart and soul. I trust you with all my life. You are better than any soulmate I could ever find.

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